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At least she misses them.

I can understand your S14 is upset with your W. What kind of conversations are you having with him to try to work him through his emotions?

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I'm taking S14 to see a therapist once a week to talk about his feelings. The sessions are for him, but he usually pulls me in after about 30 minutes so we can talk to the therapist together. Outside of therapy he doesn't like to talk about his mom much. He gets angry and doesn't have anything nice to say about her. In all honesty, I don't want anything to do with her either, and would rather not see her of hear from her.


Me 46 W 43
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S 14
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ILYB 9/2010
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I began DB in Jan 2011
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I'm in it for the kids and me.
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Have you asked him if he is getting anything positive out of the therapy? The part that you aren't involved with, I mean...

He might be just going through the motions for you and not really taking anything from it...

Just wondering if you've asked him if he thinks its worth it... and his answer is sincere...

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My son tells me that the therapy sessions are helpful and i think he is sincere. I think h has value for it since he was the one who asked me to set them up right after his mom told him that her marriage had been over for a while and she had found someone new.


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M 17
S 14
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ILYB 9/2010
EA began July/August 2010 ?
PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ?
I began DB in Jan 2011
I filed 7/12/11
Kids and I moved out 7/30/11
I'm in it for the kids and me.
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fair 'nough...

then he just needs his time to process...

he's also 14, so like my D13 and many teens, they're in separation mode anyhow... your next on his target... grin

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Yup. I'm just trying to do what I can to help S14 process his feelings. It's a narrow path to walk between being there when he needs me, but also giving him enough space so he doesn't feel smothered.
He likes living here and he is looking forward to the new school. One thing he is excited about is joining the local fire department. It's only 4 blocks away and he filled out an application for junior firefighters within days of moving in. It's always been his dream to join a fire department, but the minimum age was 16 in our old town. I think it will be a great way for him to get involved in the town and meet new people.


Me 46 W 43
M 17
S 14
D 11
ILYB 9/2010
EA began July/August 2010 ?
PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ?
I began DB in Jan 2011
I filed 7/12/11
Kids and I moved out 7/30/11
I'm in it for the kids and me.
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Howdy. Just checking in. Haven't been here in a while. My D hearing in court is about a month away and i'm ready to enter this next stage of my life. The kids and I are settled in and life is good. We don't see much of my stbxw as she just spends time with the kids when it is convenient.


Me 46 W 43
M 17
S 14
D 11
ILYB 9/2010
EA began July/August 2010 ?
PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ?
I began DB in Jan 2011
I filed 7/12/11
Kids and I moved out 7/30/11
I'm in it for the kids and me.
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South NJ? Love the Pinebarrens. Hang in there


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Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden





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