I am sorry this was an awful experience for you to go through. I am imaging that is exactly how my H will be too. He just says I was the worst wife ever and treated him like a slave. Which of course is not true, just as what your H said is not true.
I am sending lots of prayers your way.
God Bless!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Punkin, your h is unbelievable. Thought mine was strange, but pales by comparison. He invited me to lunch on the morning of our divorce. My lawyer thought that was unusual.
I thought about you a lot, but was off out of internet access for a couple of days. You will be fine. He won't. Protect yourself, like Snodderly says, and you will have a better life in the long run.
I agree with snodderly, go over things again. Change your locks now.
Your XH is purely selfish and self-righteous. Unfortunately this is the part of the crisis that they cannot understand or visualize.
If a video of their ridiculous actions and behaviors was played just for proof they would deny, deny, deny it was them in the video.
Your lawyers and the judge were way ahead of him. They have seen it all before and can recognize all the tactics and b-crap these guys can muster.
I have confidence that the judge will not let you down. Have faith that justice will prevail for you.
Please take care and rest well tonight, you are going to be fine.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
Oh Punkin I am so sorry for what you had to go through today. Take care of yourself. It's bad enough what they put us through with MLC, let alone having to go through this too. Hugs and prayers.
It's not a matter of threatening. The judge can decide that's the fair way to seperate things, and so be it. I would have to buy back my own possessions.
The funny thing is, everything he took he listed as marital, which means he would have to bring them back to auction.
I've done the double-dog walk through on the house, and you know what struck me? He didn't take a single picture of the kids or grands. Nada. Just Arts & Crafts artwork. Hope he enjoyed how nice the yard looked.
D23 said she ran into him at the local ice cream parlor. She had went there to get her son a cone, and he was there buying one for sweetie. She said he looked at her several times but never said a word, and that GS3 didn't recognize him at all. How sad is that?
You are getting good advice. Change those locks. Fort Knox comes to mind. That or a big old protective Rottie to meet him at the door.
Now, this is my opinion, but I do not believe for one minute that your H could not look at you because you disgust him. I believe he couldn't face you because of his own guilt and shame.
If he truly believed the crap he spewed up on the stand under oath, he would have been able to look you in the eye.
I also think his arrogance was a mask. Confidence is commendable, but arrogance is a cover for insecurity. I mean c'mon, not greeting your L is the epitome of childish behavior.
After all, all this was brought on by the choices he made.
Thanks for all the warm wishes and prayers. I slept okay until about 4:30 or so, compliments of Ambien. Trying to have a "today is the first day of the rest of your life" attitude. Not working very well yet.
Yes Brooklyn, I agree, they are just things. It's the thought that he had to slip into my house while I'm not here. He still didn't take his last gun rack. It is definitely a feeling of violation. Think he went through my underwear drawer?
His lawyer kept saying " So what are you doing with your $275.00/week, like it was a grand. I so dearly wanted to say "Well I make my payment on my Jaguar, then there's the pool boy to pay, etc and so on. Utilities and food, you moron. And Gas.
Bizaare, freaky world. What was that old movie where people were being replaced by aliens? Pod People? Whoever replaced my XH got all the arrogance and none of the lovability.
I refuse to let this get me down. Some depression is allowed, but enough is enough. Time to move on. I was hoping all would be said and done this morning, but apparently we now have to wait breathlessly for the judge's decision about a settlement, which could screw me over royally.
Keep them prayers coming, and I'll keep praying for us all.
Happy Little Friday!
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
