Doubt anyone will actually go through and read all that but I have included it anyway. If you do find time to read all that there is some GREAT advice from people on my threads.
Quick recap:
W left in Oct back to OK where she is from. I live in Jersey with my 11yr old D from a previous M. We talk on a regular basis sometimes good sometimes not.
Let me set this update up. W and I were looking to buy a house where we live a little before she left. She had signed up for some real estate emails and she still gets them. Average prices in my area are about 450K and up. I wanted to wait to this year to clear up some debt before making any purchases but she loved to cruise the sites and look at houses.
Today I get an email from her.
W "Isn't this just freaking wonderful. Nice houses in leonia that we actually could have afforded thought I would share the misery... Lol Have a good day!"
I did not respond. A few minutes later I get a text from her
W "ck ur email"
M "ok"
W "hehe"
M "Wait do I want to?"
W "yes"
W "Well maybe....But u gotta now i have sparked ur interest"
M "yeah now I am gonna check. driving so it will be a few minutes"
W "ok be careful driving"
Checked the house and responded to the text about 2 hrs later
M "great house"
W "Thought I would get more of a response than that....lol"
M "What would you like me to say??? Want to buy it?? LOL"
Nothing for a few minutes just this very moment i get this
W "There was a day when I wanted that soo bad....The timing is just way off......Kind of like the story of my life"
W "Thought I would get more of a response than that....lol"
M "What would you like me to say??? Want to buy it?? LOL"
Nothing for a few minutes just this very moment i get this
W "There was a day when I wanted that soo bad....The timing is just way off......Kind of like the story of my life"
I have not responded to it yet.
Man... your W takes your temperature more often than a weatherman...
She is just baiting you 2Step.
I think that it is good stuff... but not sure that you should get into a whole convo about this. I would just say that you agree that the timing is off and that, 'maybe someday' or something like that.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Yeah I was caught off guard by that comment. I did respond but the amount of 2x4 I am going to get is going to leave me lumped up pretty good.
So I responded to my W. Michelle, Cat, Mach, Gritter, BITS, and all the guest commentators bring your bats out.
My response was
M "I am still here. I am still willing"
Truthfully I think she might have been looking to hear that I had not given up. MAYBE I am wrong. Usually I AM WRONG. If I know W and I believe i do she did not mind getting that text.
It certainly beats what I wanted to say so I kept it short and left the door open.
Nothing surprising happened after the text. Actually Nothing happened after my text.
As I am pulling the splinters out from my last thread I prepare for a secondary assault.
She probably was wanting to hear you had not given up.
But was it because she wants to know you are still there waiting for her because it gives her options and an ego boost? Or because she's interesting in R?
I think consciously she's still more in the first option.
So why give her what she wants?
Is it what either of you need?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
