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#2128323 02/09/11 06:08 AM
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So I've been encouraged to add a post about setting goals - no matter how small they are and wanted to start it off here.

In a nutshell, I truly follow (most days), the concept of setting action oriented goals to achieve basically anything in life. Sometimes, its by the hour but mostly it's by the day.

I then try to follow up by how I've accomplished that and if I didn't, why not - and more importantly - how to accomplish it the next time.

Some of these have to do with my R or W but most have to do with me. I fix/better things in myself to make me a better man for someone out there. I'm hoping it's my W but if not, someone will dig me.

Soooooo....what's the first goal???


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GOAL:
To keep busy for the day to give the W space that she has asked for and needs to feel loved.

Ways to accomplish this?
finish my work
write
meet with movers

this will make the day go pretty fast and before you know it, the day will be over and the goal accomplished.

let's see how it goes.


m 40
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married 15
together 18
d11, d8
bomb 12/19/10
2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE
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by the way, anyone should feel free to add a goal of theirs so we can help each other accomplish it!


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2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE
Bolt #2128331 02/09/11 08:05 AM
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Hi Bolt,

I really like the idea of this post. I personally caused myself a major setback so I have to start fresh...and that is my goal starting over.


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sara - same here
my actions caused a setback as well
ok bolt (who i already dig)
my goal for today:

treadmill for half hour
be cheerful, friendly and hot when he picks me up to drive me to train station
no r talk
laugh my butt off at read thru (might help my mood)

there
that was easy enough
but lets see what my mouth does to mess this up
anybody loan me some tape?

have a great day everyone


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My goal for today is to a random act of kindess for someone. to me that could mean holding the door for someone, letting car into my lane of driving, helping a co-worker to just saying thank you to someone.

Let's see how I go.


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Oh and Bolt...thanks for this! ;-)


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zen, those are things you do everyday, im sure
in spades


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Originally Posted By: grr
zen, those are things you do everyday, im sure
in spades


grr - your confidence in me is reassuring. Thank you. Sadly, I don't but I am making a more concerted effort to do so. It's part of shedding the old skin and sticking with the new.


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Oooohhh... I really like this. The thing I don't do and I really should is if I don't achieve a goal for the day, I don't go over why and how to do better. That's huge. I love it.

I have my work goals laid out everyday on a piece of paper (I like writing things out). I'll spare everyone the boring details.

Personal for the day:

1) Work out for 1 hour
2) Clean out my car
3) Stay positive and smiling if H decides to ignore me for the day. Remember that there is a whole world out there who cares and he is not the deciding factor on whether I am a good person or bad person.
4) Complete Bible Study unit for Luke.
5) Complete goals for tomorrow.


Me- 40
H - 43
M - 5
T - 14
Separated 2/5/11
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