I came back from my reunion and did not post much. Noticed the site was done for a while and figured i would just start a new thread. We have our temporary hearing in 2 days. She has been more distant and not as angry or pissy. We have not had any contact really other than the kids, which has been peaceful. We were together yesterday for a parent teacher conference, she was in good spirits as was I, our S is doing well in kindergarten and she made small talk with me about my family. We left the school and she pulled up next to me honking the horn and she and the kids smiled and waved at me.
I have gone on a few dates, I think I have a stalker already. Nothing serious with any of them, I have explained the situation I am in, and that I am not looking for anything just meeting new people.
The W will still send me a text here and there asking questions she could easily figure out herself. Most of the time i do not respond, a couple times it had to do with stuff for the kids so I responded.
I still have my up and down days, mostly up!. I have been doing everything under the sun to distance and detach, which has made me more, at peace, but again its not something that comes naturally. I have done this for myself and to also let the W miss me, whoch I dont believe has taken the latter of the 2, but I cant control that. I have had women tell me I am hot, tell me that my wife is crazy for wanting a divorce, but these women dont know me? So I question what is wrong with me? is there a reason that my W sees that takes time to know me that turns her and maybe a future GF or spouse away?
Not a big fan of dating prior to actually being divorced.
I am glad you are feeling better, and in the event you actually divorce, my advice not to date prior to divorce will probably seem silly to you.
If you reconcile, however, it opens a virtual Pandora's box of new problems, and... the bottom line for me personally is that I would feel like I was "needy" if I did that (e.g. as if I were giving in to the insecurity of my own ego instead of just being me and being happy and truly detatched).
Que sara, sara. But that is my 2 cents.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I see your point TH, and the dates have been very, whats the word, loose? a dinner and chatting, nothing physical. And yes "if" we reconcile it does open another can of worms. But at this point I really dont see reconciling in the future. I dont know what the future holds by any means, thats just part of my detachment and letting go.
Had a hearing today, was postponed again due to the fact W's attorney was not present at the time they called our case. I met with my attorney and said lets put an offer together to get this over with. He will prepare it and send it to her attorney tomorrow. I was upbeat and had the attitude of getting finished with this. I did not interact with the W at all. Let the attorney do the work.
I sent a text to W after the hearing asking where I will pick the kids up for tonight? She asked if I wanted her to meet me somewhere? I said nope just take them to the daycare and I will pick them up.
I think I am showing her that I am moving on and want to get this done. It makes me feel better that we are closer to closing this chapter. I want to move on with my life.
yup, remember, be happy, upbeat, awesome, life is good, the attitude is "this is what you wanted wife, you can have it! It's working out pretty damn sweet for me, don't know why I didn't do this sooner! Peace out!!!!"
Thats the way I am Rob, and I felt it was time to start negotiating on my side, to get the ball moving quicker! I dont want to keep going atthis round and round, this is what she wanted let me help her on her way!
Thats the way I am Rob, and I felt it was time to start negotiating on my side, to get the ball moving quicker! I dont want to keep going atthis round and round, this is what she wanted let me help her on her way!
