my h is having an a for the past 4 yrs. He was home for a yr but went back to ow. one yr. ago. What do you recommend I do? He is 55 maybe its MLC we have one son together. We were married 19 yrs.
We have a 17 yr old son. We didnt agree on money. He is a spender im not. I am very spiritual person, he is not. Started out telling me small lies and it got worse over time. He is a workaholic and I felt lonely and neglected because we didnt do much together the last few yrs. and I didnt have my own life. We went to a counselor 5 yrs ago and she made things really bad by saying we should separate to make m better. Therapist became like the 3rd person in our m which was not healthy. I think h resented that. H went to her by himself a few times and I think she told him things that I said because I remember one time when he left her office he was really angry at me and things were not the same after that.. Counselor was not coming from a good place either which I didnt know, she was divorcing her H. We were only having minor problems like his over spending and not doing things together. I was also having problems sleeping , because h wanted TV on when he went to sleep and it interrupted my sleep, so I started sleeping in other room and I think that is when he started A because he missed having sex. I know now what a terrible mistake it was to sleep in other room. I have a lot of guilt for the mistakes that I made in my m. I was to dependent on him for my happiness. OW is totally opposite of me. She is very outgoing and has always worked, no children. I was a stay at home mother.
