My wife blindsided me with the D bomb on 05-18-10, we separated on 05-29, caught her with OM 1 06-05-10, I was pretty sure there was someone else just by the way she was acting. Busted the A to her parents 6-6-10 without hard proof, she denied it they turned against me, rebusted A with proof 07-08-10 with proof to parents A over by 07-12-10. She starts A with OM2 who is old boyfriend introduces om2 to our kids, and her parents 07-23-10 she was no longer hiding her adultery from any one. Week of 08-15 she introduces OM3 to kids he lives 800 miles away and is constantly on her facebook, its my understanding he contacted stbex the minute he heard we were getting D. He is a old High School friend. 08-29 STBEX dumps kids off on sisters on S7 birthday has overnight visitor at our house then takes D10 to lunch to meet him following day 9-7-10 D10 tells me she has broke off relations with OM2. My wife makes $100,000 a year plus 45% of my income, she got exclusive use of the house in temporary orders, she is parading the OM around her parents & my kids. We have been black to gray on communications since 6-6-10, I have not seen any indications that she is having second thoughts. We have an ongoing custody fight that I do not think she takes seriously. I am 95% sure that our marriage is over with little hope of any outcome except D. I think I have detached pretty well, I have not ever begged, pleaded, or pursued her since the D bomb. I am trying to get custody of my kids so I can set some boundaries, until that time I see very little I can do. I think I owe it to my kids to try everything in my power to work past this, but I am not willing to wait 5 years for her to possibly come out of her fog, possibly MLC complete with the new sports car bought after the D bomb.
Any experts have any advice on how to handle STBEX?
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
