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#2074836 09/12/10 08:03 PM
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... and I got there: my ex-wife is definitely an alien.

Wow.

Perspectives are SO different between the two of us.

The woman living in that apartment really bears no resemblance to the woman I was married to anymore. I don't know her.

I must say, with regards to the divorce, I'm generally doing pretty good.

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Hi Geronimo,

I agree- the WAS's ARE aliens. MY H bears NO resemblance now to the man I married 14 years ago.
I think my H should get an Oscar for his false portrayal (betrayal) of a H.

I am glad you are doing well with handling the D. It all takes time.

Hang in there and do the things that make you smile~


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I told ya! smile It's weird to realize sometimes how unhappy we are when going through separation and divorce, and how much things get better after, and continue to get better. I'm so glad to hear you are doing well! smile


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G, good to see you back.

Last I remember your XW was being nice, wanting to spend time together etc but you were starting to be less available to her 'advances' per-se. Have things changed now?


Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
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Hey guys -

Bizarre weekend. Ah, you know the details aren't important. She just makes no sense to me now.

Without going into details, from what I understand from a mutual friend, her perspective on our interactions are much, much different than mine, just makes me realize that we are planets apart in our thinking and perceptions.

IR, no, some time ago I told her that we could not spend time together anymore, because it just brought up too much turbulence over the following days. It was a really good decision. Karen, yeah I wish I had taken it to heart sooner.

So I'm a single parent, my boys live here with me, I'm doing all the meals, laundry, cleaning, what have you, and I'm completely in love with my little family.

I could tell you guys some soap-opera stories, but when you take a step back, it's all the same thing. But it keeps getting better.

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Geronimo, I am glad to hear you doing well and that things continue to bebetter for you.

It is interesting how different two peoples' perspectives can be. Fire and ice, black and white, night and day.

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It does get better. I am glad that you are finally able to feel that. Enjoy your kids.

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