It's really not bothering me anymore what his grandmother said. If they want to stick up for their selfish grandson and not their great-grandchildren, then so be it. Bworl is right, I got my own family that sticks behind me and the boys. With the exception of a few family members, his whole family loves to play victims even though they bring most of the stuff unto themselves.
2moro, I have to disagree with you that I am not ready for a relationship. I have been alone now for 4 years. I would say the last 1 and 1/2 to 2 years I have been over ex and not wanting him back. For a long time I was grateful to be by myself as I got to focus on just me. But now I am missing male companionship. I am not talking about getting serious with anyone, but I wouldn't mind dating. I know I'm ready.
Ms. H, You have a wonderful family support system and you know that you can always count on your family to assist you. I'm just sorry for what has transpired over the last few years.
I hope that you are doing okay and are staying "cool". The weather here has very hot and humid. Hopefully a few days of lower 90's will come our way soon.
I do hope that you and the boys are having a great summer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I've been reading along and I'm so pleased that ex finally got his comeupance from the judiciary. It's about bloody time. I hope you get your cash soon.
I agree it's probably time for you to get back on the dating bandwagon, but I want to take issue with this ...
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I have been alone now for 4 years.
I said a similar thing to a really good girlfriend this week (although I've had some flings that won't be fit to tell my grandchildren about) and she made the very good point that I've been single for 4 years, NOT alone.
You are not ALONE girl. You have two beautiful children, a gorgeous family and great friends. That's not alone.
I really thought about her comment, because it puts me in a totally different headspace. Being single is OK until we meet someone who is worthy of us ... because we're not alone!!!
Keep at it. I've just landed in Vietnam for 3 weeks of nothing but rest and relaxation as a single woman, I'm on my own, but I'm not alone - and life is really pretty good.
Thinking of you, V
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
I do love what you just said. I need to try to remember it.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Sometimes I get this thought in my head that I hate my life...simply because one aspect of it isn't the way I want it to be. I then have to remind myself of how truly blessed I am and that my life could certainly be so much worse. I have great kids, a good family, nice friends, a home to live in, food to eat, clothes to wear and we are pretty healthy...not to mention that we are all here to live another day. It is all in how we look at things and we need to appreciate what we do have and not focus on what we don't.
Snodderly, yesterday it was very humid up here. I don't mind the heat so much but when it's humid on top of it, blah! As for the summer, I feel like it's flying by fast. The boys are with their father for the week, it's only been 2 days and already I miss them so much! However, when they get back, I have been invited by my Aunt up to Plymouth, Mass. She moved up there a few years ago. I plan on taking the boys whale watching off Plymouth Harbor. The boys and I will love that!
Virginia, Thank you so much, you are right. I'm single, not alone. Good way to look at it. Enjoy your stay in Vietnam!
I think that would be a fun trip to go whale watching. The boys and yes, even you, will enjoy doing this. It's something different and it will give all of you something to think about and have fond memories of. It's time to start living again and enjoying life and this is a first step towards that. Go and have fun!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
MissH, I am dating and sometimes I feel ready for it, sometimes not so much. I think it's a good idea to make some connections, see how you feel. Just take it slowly.
And I think it's normal to have regrets and miss the X sometimes, even after all he's put you through.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
geesh Im sorry MH.....you certainly would know better than me. I stand corrected. Just sometimes you sounded still a lttle mired in the mess still.
Any single parenting groups around...find that dad who's values are the same as yours.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I told him he must like going to court and paying double the legal fees.
He called my lawyer and I both selfish while his lawyer tries to play fair.
I did not respond to that last TM.
On another note, I just want to make it clear that I am over ex and I am ready to date and I have moved on with my life in other aspects.
The anger I have for ex no longer has anything to do with his affair. It has all to do with trying to dodge his responsibilities and putting his and his girlfriend's needs over those of our children.
