I will try and give my brief story. I am new to this bloging stuff so bear with me. This is my 2nd marriage (11yrs now). My husband recently told me that he Doesn't love me anymore about 3weeks ago. At first I was angry and approached the situation all wrong. Even before I got the DB books I knew what I had done was wrong. So I stopped, I have read the DR book and am working on the first book now. Don't ask me why I read them in this order.
I have been using some of the techniques but with my own twist. I am probably communicating more than some of you. After I had a chance to calm down I asked if he would consider a seperation instead of a divorce to start. He seemed open to the suggestion which made me happy. We have talked about me wanting to keep the house but there are things that need to be done to it that I am not capable of doing alone. So he has been working on some of the repairs. He of course wants nothing but wants to make sure me and my daughter (from previuos marriage) are taken care of.
Fast forward a bit and all of his friends have kinda abandoned him and he really has no place to go, so he has been sleeping on the couch for the past three weeks. I have been using the techniques and talking with him at every opportunity. We have even been sexually active together, which to me is a good sign. So, last night we talked a great deal about where to go from here (his bringing it up not me). Now he wants to build a room in our detached garage where he can "seperate" from me. He states he wants to live like we are divorced but not sleep with other people of course. He contradicts himself during conversation and starts talking about our future together but then I think he catches himself. I asked him If I could snuggle with him last night before we went to bed and we fell asleep together on the couch. Before we went to sleep he said in a few weeks after he works on the fence some he will take me on a bike trip for the day. I am of course going crazy because I know many of these things are good signs.
So now the plan is for him to build a room in our garage and for us to be seperated that way there are no financial strains on either of us.
Any support or opinions would be greatly appreciated. I have posted before and never really gotten a good response.
If you think your H is in a MLC start a thread on that board. Try to stick to one thread and one board for the future. There are resources at the top of the MLC board to read to see if you think he is in MLC. Confusion, however is a sign of MLC. It does sound like your H is confused.
