mrbt - in the beginning I took none of the blame. That got me nowhere. I actually had a nervous breakdown and checked myself unneccesarily into a rehab clinic 5 weeks ago. It turned out that even though I wasn't an alcoholic (whole different crazy story) and after begging my insurance company to let me stay inpatient for 8 days, I discovered myself again...not the mom, the wife, etc.
But now...idk....I just feel that even though he has done a million things "wrong" I have accepted the old cliche - I would rather be happy than be right. Sooooo, for now, the ONLY thing I think I can do is to sit back and focus on where I went wrong. I have tried to point out where he is wrong to him..but he has just taken it as another one of my controlling techniques. He is at a point where he thinks EVERYTHING I do is manipulative. So...i have no choice really. I can only focus on where I went wrong...when things get better (total optimist here) he will have his own demons to deal with...that is if he is not already living with them....
