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#1919599 01/19/10 06:45 PM
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Now, i have been here long enough to know its all the same script regardless of the person. I am curious of a couple of things. When and If it changes does the WAW script just disappear or does more and more of W that you remember come out.


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The script changes when the W changes. Just as she did not become a WAW overnight and start that "script" in one day, neither will it disappear overnight and your old W reappear.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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The script is a symptom of the mental state of the WAW. Like finding ways of justifying behavior that is contrary to what they percieve or even others may percieve as unacceptable, for example. A way of protecting the ego.

Once they have moved on to a new stage of progression or state, the language changes. But I can almost guarantee there will be no return to the old person you once knew.





Last edited by Sgfan; 01/27/10 04:52 PM.

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M:8 yrs
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Divorce: 8/28/09
XW Affair began: April 08

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