Thank u all. I am more calm and moved on with my day for my poor children's sake. It is hard to still care for someone who is at times is treating u so bad and then last night still wants to be my friend with hugs and not wanting to hurt me and telling me I am beautiful. I truly don't believe my husband is evil just majorly confused and may not wake up in time. His friends and family don't know who this person is either. He has pushed us all away. It is so sad, especially for my young kids-3 and 5. They have no idea what is going on.
So do you have anything to say about sending an anonymous letter to her. I am just lost. Hopefully Wed he will say they are not going and I have fussed all this time for nothing.
NO, NO, NO!
Absolutely no reason for you to contact her. It makes you appear weak, desperate and mildly crazy. They will *both* know it was from you, and will give them something else to bond over.
What *you* will gain from not contacting her: self-respect, self-control and not making sitch w/H worse. I made mistake of contacting my H's OW; NEVER again. Among other things, made me look crazy & def. set things back w/H.
They will do what they do. Keep your dignity, as hard as it may be right *now*.
(((Hugs)))
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
My husband hasn't said anything should I ask him if he us going to hockey /overnight stay with ow. Or just ignore. I kinda want to know plans for kids this weekend.
My husband hasn't said anything should I ask him if he us going to hockey /overnight stay with ow. Or just ignore. I kinda want to know plans for kids this weekend.
Assume that he's not going to be there and make plans accordingly.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Yeah, he decided in 11th hour to take daughter instead! Came to pick daughter up from school and gave me an arm squeeze and said I love my family. I don't think that includes me but at least he cares enough not to disrespect me so badly.
Yeah, he decided in 11th hour to take daughter instead! Came to pick daughter up from school and gave me an arm squeeze and said I love my family. I don't think that includes me but at least he cares enough not to disrespect me so badly.
Did you already make plans with her? If so, why did you let him take her?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
My H just asked me out as friends on Fri. I have made it clear to him that if we divorce I will not be his friend. Thus is after questions this week of "be honest with yourself, could u still love,trust and cherish me after all has been said and done?" And could your family accept and respect me after all this. He said he is asking these questions because he is thinking. How do I respond? Thoughts?
