Respect and boundries

[JTJ]

Can anyone point me in the right direction to any threads or books on this.

I didn't really respect my wife in the past through not listening, being critical and just mean. So should I aspect any respect now?

Sleep in the same bed, no physical contact, wifes goes out every couple of weeks till 3:30 am. I really don't like it. But really don't know what to do. In the past I would interogate her and complain. I've stopped saying or doing anything. Just working on PMAing. I've been Dbing since July. How do aome of you keep up your energy in the face of all this?

Thanks

JJ

[Changes]

Read When love hurts. It is a great book. For us guys we go right to the back of the book and start the reading and exercises. Also, read hold on to your nuts...a just for guys book to balance off your reading.

I have been DB'ing since March. It is a long road. Good thing is you can say with no doubt in your mind you tried and you ARE a better person for it literally. Good luck. I will stop by later.

[Fightin4mywife]

Try Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend.

Man I understand. My wife started disappearing and not communicating with me at all. If I inquired she would act offended as if I were imposing on her personal business. I don't believe she violated me with anyone else but she just tries to inflict hurt by being mysterious.

Well, that seems to be just what we're trying to do with DBing. I don't intentionally decline sharing with her about me, but I am choosing to GAL and not make it a point to share that with her. She can find out through the rumor mill.

best to you in your journey.