Last year my wife and I had been having problems and I came on her and went to DBing. Well things were good for about 6 months and then we decided that she should go off the pill and that we would try to have a child in a few months. Well she went off the pill about a 1.5 months ago. Since then things have gotten worse. She is now saying that everything is the same as it has been and nothing has changed. Not sure how she can say this as we were talking about having kids etc. When I ask her what she wants to do I get nothing. No actual talk of D like before no separation talk nothing. I do not ask anymore I just did to begin with as she was seeming really distant for about a week. It has been two weeks now since that time and nothing has changed. I have given her, her space and have been doing my own thing. She is jumping all over me about jealousy things for something that I said probably 6 motnhs prior when we were having our problems. When she first started pulling back about three weeks ago I asked her if there was something going on or if there was someone else. She just says that I am being jealous and nothing has changed. I did some snooping since all this has happened and now she is texting a guy from work about 20 times a day when she won't even talk to me or let me touch her. I don't think that this has been going on for more than a week as I wasn't snooping prior to all of this.
I really think that her hormones are all out of whack and she is using me as her whipping boy for all of this. I do know that if I talk to her about it she will deny that is the cause and just tell me that it is me and not her. As she knows all and she would have thought of this on her own. Not sure what to do. Do I talk to her about her hormones and suggest that this is the problem? Do I detach and leave her be on her own and if it is a thing with the other guy let it be and work on myself? I am really confused and don't know a lot about the pill or how women feel when coming off of it. I have read other places on the internet how it messes with their emotions for months after coming off of it. And when women do come off the pill do their hormones tend to let them lash out at others close to them maybe some depression. If we didn't have our problems in the past I would be more sure it was the pill but now I have no idea.
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
The pill can keep hormones a basically even levels while a woman is on them as recommended. Normally hormones fluctuate a lot over the course of a month. I think that the emotional roller coaster that can accompany coming off that hormone regulation can be surprising to a woman who hasnt experienced it in a while. And it could take a while to really get them all out of her system, maybe 2 or 3 months to get back to "normal mode".
Has she been on the birth control since you knew her? Maybe this is part of her hormone cycles. Shes been off them for a while now, I wouldnt blame it on the pills so much anymore.
Now, what concerns me even more: You snooped on a woman who thinks you are a jealous man? NO, NO, NO! Thats exactly what you would expect a jealous person to do...
Make some changes for yourself, ask her how you could show her that you arent jealous. And for godsakes, stop snooping. Can you plan a special camping trip or something? If you are having issues with your M, I think that maybe now might not be the best time to be trying to conceive.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
