Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 3 of 10 1 2 3 4 5 9 10
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
J
Moderator
Offline
Moderator
J
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
MWG = Midwestern Girl.
: )

Man don't I feel stupid

Well...maybe not stupid but certainly not observant.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,045
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Apr 2008
Posts: 4,045
MWG--

I am thrilled for you! I have peeked in on your threads from time to time and have been encouraged by your stand. I am going to try to read through all of them.

I am in agreement with you. It is all God and He will intervene in His perfect time.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW


M40/H36
T16/M14
4K
B2/08
S4/08
current

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through
every circumstance.
I Corinthians 13:7



Joined: May 2008
Posts: 172
I
Member
Offline
Member
I
Joined: May 2008
Posts: 172
Congrats and well wishes to you and your family....I am so glad he came home.....and it was God who did it in his timing....


M-53
H-46
M-24+YRS
BOMB-10/14/07
2-S
2-D
Grandkids-7
Greatgrand kid-1
He needs space...
Wants to start fresh new life W O/W
Moved in his O/W Oct.08
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 1,557
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 1,557
Originally Posted By: trapt
Originally Posted By: braveheart
Originally Posted By: Holly06
Braveheart,

That is totally inappropriate. Please do not post on my thread(s)any longer.


Let me tell you something right now. What I said was not inappropriate at all, being cautious is not negative and I will tell you one thing more, you do not own these threads. As long as I post things with using appropriate language and courtesy, I will post whatever I want to!

I must have missed something. Please don't post on my thread sounds more like asking to respect a person's wishes. Hmmm? Maybe it was the roaring chant of Defense! I kept hearing when I was reading this .

If that doesn't suit you, perhaps you shouldn't start anymore threads.

Why? you don't own these threads either.

I have a different way of thinking than a lot of you and many of you don't like it, fine, but I don't put you down for the way you think nor do I tell you not to post on threads because you don't agree with me.

Again must have been the DEFENSE! I missed where you were put down and if something like that gets you all fired up, I can only imagine what a button pushing MLC'er could do.




Trapt, apparently you didn't get the MEANING of the message. My meaning was, I am entitled to my opinion, just like everyone else is on this board, regardless if you agree with me or not and no one has the right to censor someone just because they think differently than you do. Please read the meaning rather than how it is stated.

Joined: May 2006
Posts: 1,557
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 1,557
Originally Posted By: MidwesternGirl
Originally Posted By: braveheart
I would sleep with one eye open. I would have felt better about the situation had he left on his own, but with her throwing him out leaves some unresolved issues IMO.


He was waiting for this moment because she is whacko.........

You are missing some very important points here....

God is/was in control.

We learn hard lessons for what we have done.

There has been a lot of communication all very positive.



MWG, Regardless of how I feel about the situation, I do wish you the very best and I do hope that you are able to build a stronger relationship with your husband. I also hope that his committment is as strong as yours and he inflicts no further pain upon you or his children.

Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 56
D
Member
Offline
Member
D
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 56
[/quote] This is not a wish about wanting him home. I wanted whatever God had in store for me. [/quote]

I've read you're thread from time to time and have been fascinated by how you justify your H actions. His explanation for why he came home doesn't exactly leave one all warm and fuzzy.

So will you be able to accept this as God's will if it doesn't work? Or should I ask how many times can a spouse come and go until we accept this as God's will? We also have to accept that we're not always given what we want.

I do however wish you luck and will keep you in my prayers.

Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
J
Moderator
Offline
Moderator
J
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 11,646
What the hell?

Quote:

I do however wish you luck and will keep you in my prayers.


That was pretty much ALL that needed to be said.

And if someone tells you either nicely or otherwise not to post on their thread it is a respect issue to honor their wishes...no we don't actually own this thread or anything on the board it is an honor system it is a courtesy.

Really, deep down start asking yourself if what your posting is actually helping someone or just mean spirited to hurt them and their beliefs. And no; opening their eyes to what you believe isn't helping them.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 4,034
F
Member
Offline
Member
F
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 4,034
BH,

Yes, we all are entitled to state our opinions. I think we all agree that we must focus on becoming better people first. Owning our faults and improving ourselves has to happen.

This is a marriage saving board however. I have yet to see a positive post in regards to a LBS standing for the marriage.

Yes you say "if you choose to then by all means stand." Then YOU choose to follow it up with something negative. Then that negative is followed by a statement that says your "different" or "real" or "cynical" or "not bitter."

This is also the mlc forum. I'm assuming you believe in mlc since you post here. It seems like you have been here long enough to know that mlc involves childhood issues and depression. No it doesn't excuse poor treatment or behavior, but IMO it explains it.

I guess we are just different. I choose to be positive. I choose to see that these people have issues from when they were kids. I choose to believe that the issues can in fact be resolved. No we can't do it for them, however we can understand and give them a chance without someone chiming in with ARRRG!!! or "these idiots would rather live in lice," or find it comical that someone's family member is on their deathbed and wants to go to heaven after having a mlc.


Don't stand still.
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 4,034
F
Member
Offline
Member
F
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 4,034
It's a tad bit difficult to focus on the "meaning" when it is overshadowed by negativity. This journey is dark enough as it is.


Don't stand still.
Joined: Dec 2007
Posts: 9,762
M
Member
Offline
Member
M
Joined: Dec 2007
Posts: 9,762
Quote:
This journey is dark enough as it is.


AMEN to that!


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

Page 3 of 10 1 2 3 4 5 9 10

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard