Keel-hauled, but, more time with my kids

[smith18]

I'm looking forward to one of those BBQ bacon things.

I'm curious what the doctor has to say about the BBQ bacon thing (Bacon Explosion).

[sandycay]

Wow, I had to look it up KerryK and that is something else. But then, I think Bacon is it's own food group. I have convinced myself that running will take away all bad things of bacon.

[4kids]

While on the subject of bacon... you'll like this one! (mind you it came out on 4.1.09 )

http://www.thinkgeek.com/stuff/41/squeez-bacon.html

N.

[faithisbelieving]

Love BLT's. I can be bribed by one. Sad thing for me is that in the coffee shop in my hospital, they make the meanest BLT this side of the Pecos. Too easy to eat them all the time.

To KerryK...I am ready in my mind to date. I won't however until this is done or we split. Gonna be strange to be nekked with another woman again.

FIB

[faithisbelieving]

This evening, I opened up my son's backpack to find a laminated bio that he wrote about my STBXW. It stung initially because he's written twice about her so far. XXX hero 2X....FIB 0. Then, I read:

[ QUOTE]
About my wonderful Mom

My biography is about my mom. Her name is XXX. She had a tough time when she was a kid. Her mom taught her to speak Irish. She inspires me because we have a lot in common. She loves me very much. She makes me laugh. She works hard to get good grades.

My mom was born in XXX. She grew up in XXX.She liked it there a lot. She has 1 sister and 2 brothers and mom and dad. Her brother made fun of her a lot. She got good grades when she was in high school.

My mom grew up being smart and getting good grades in school. She works hard to help me and my sister. She saves her money every year to help my family.

My mom was bullied in school. She was punched, pushed and called bad names. She had tough times when she was bullied in school when she was in first grade. She tried to stay away from them. They stopped bullying her when she was in second grade.

My mom worked really hard to make the bullys stop making fun of her in school. She had tough times almost every day for her. They stopped making fun of her when she told the principal.

My mom inspires me because she takes care of me when I'm sick. She plays with me sometimes. She makes me breakfast, lunch and dinner all the time. My mom is going to school to get a better education. She also works at a hair salon. She is trying to get a better life. It is not easy but she is doing her best[/quote]

FIB

[faithisbelieving]

PS....and u wonder why I am here..... FIB

[smith18]

FIB -

I am sure you know that it is not a game and no one should be keeping score. Dont fret too much about your son writing something nice about his mother. It is best that children love and respect both parents.

I am sure the assignment was mothers day oriented and the teacher had the students interview their mothers. Your son wrote in his own words what his mother said.

My daughter sometimes draws pictures that include OM (Ed) in them. That does not bother me. A couple weeks ago, she ran up and embraced him at S8's play in front of my father. That bothered my father a lot, but I have gotten accustomed to it and had to tell my dad to not speak to D6 about it. I figure kids that age should be able to express themselves openly. Ed seems to be good with them and I try to look on the bright side. I do however wonder if maybe I should have D6 start making him lots of Bacon Explosions to see how well his nearly 69 year old heart can handle them.

BTW... I would say there is nothing strange about being nekked with another good woman. It just feels natural. I'm looking forward to August on Kaui to see what 22 days in a row will be like.

You will be so much wiser when you start dating again. Just dont bring up XW in conversation too much. But then again, Jack says that chicks dig guys with scars.

[faithisbelieving]

Kerry....where did u get such strength and wisdom? I remember reading your initial threads and u seem like 2 different people.

Waiter...I'll have what he's having, FIB

[LolaL]

FIB: Was reading your thread, and can understand your feeling. My D13 still asks about her SF. It is hard not to bad mouth him, especially because he is NOT her father, but in the end, I would like her to remember him with love.

It is good that your son still feels loved by his mother. So many times, the children suffer because the MLC'er is so self consumed that they cannot even see the harm they are causing the children. A child needs to feel loved, safe and secure, and if she is giving him that, then that is a positive thing.

[smith18]

That first thread of mine was a nightmare in my life - I started to get some strength and clarity by the second thread. I have to give much credit to the guy I work for. He wrote me some incredibly wise emails during that time. He said that my actions needed to be 100% about the kids, that I needed a clear and exact explanation for what's going on in their lives and that indecision would be like a knife in their hearts that keeps getting twisted. I needed to stay calm but firm, focus on the kids and everything else would eventually come to rest in a better place. It's pretty easy when you put what's in the kids best interests first.

What pisses me off most about your situation is the family law system in the state of New York. It's as if the divorce laws mutated over time to the point where there is no clear interpretation and it then becomes a legal "best interest" game to be played out over time for control of the children and the money. And what is with the Law Guardian?

I am so sorry Frank that you have had to endure this, but I believe you will soon start to reap your better years. It is ordeals like this, while not pleasant at the time, that end up making us better persons when we get through it.