I don't know how I am going to react. I will be seeing H for the 1st time in 5 mths. I am getting butterflies just thinking about it and then my stomach starts to turn.
How do I react? Do I talk to him? Smile and wave?
I can honestly tell you that I know in my heart that I would want to run up and give him a huge hug just like we would do everytime we would see eachother when he was gone for even just a few days. I remember his smile would be just as big as mine.
I have gotten a new outfit that shows I have lost wieght. I am getting my hair and nails done and have been working on other things for awhile so that I look my very best on Mon.
What do I do if he wants to talk?
What do I do if he still wants nothing to do with me? (how do I not show how upset I still am)
How do I not show emotion and that I still do not want this?
Do I wear our wedding rings?
The court session is only for temp relieve spousal support. It has nothing to do with the D itself.
I need advise, please please help me!!!!!
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
If he wants to talk, then talk, but NOT about the relationship. If he wants to talk about the relationship, then just listen to him.
If he wants nothing to do with you...don't pursue him. Keep your head up, have a smile on your face, be confident (even if you have to fake it), and 'act' like you aren't bothered by anything.
He already knows that you don't want this. You don't have to remind him anymore. Don't show unhappiness or hurt, again, even if you have to fake it.
If it were me, I would wear my wedding ring. I wouldn't say anything about it either...I'd just do it.
This DB'n is hard. We feel for you. We know the pain and the disappointment. But I believe, as hard as it is and as counter-intuitive as it is...it is the best way to go about these situations.
Stay here and learn and get support. This is a good place. Talk with others.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
thanks for the reply. I do look at alot of other ppls posts and I also write on them. I guess you could say I am calling out to them all!!!!!! I am there for alot of you and now I really need it in return......
I am really starting to feel more anxiety about Mon. I really don't want to get into a fight or anything. I would just like to even say Hi and get a hello back. That would be at least more than I have had in the last 5 mths.
What if the OW comes with him? I know I will want to jump out of my skin.....
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
I agree with antlers, this will be a time to put into place all the tools and insights you have gained over the past 5 months. Act as-if. Strength and Honor. Smile and Wave. 180 (do the opposite of what he would expect you to do). Look stunning. Project confidence, PMA. Wear your rings proudly. The more positive energy and confidence you can display, the more you will shake his belief that he's making the right decision. Leave him wanting more
I have been working on my weight (not where I want to be but working on it), I dyed my hair today, got a new outfit that is slimming. Of course I have been breaking out due to the stress but thank god for make-up.
In my mind I keep telling myself to be strong, God is with me and he will give me strength. Then I look at a picture of him and I melt!
My heart still aches and my stomach does turns. I really do have butterflies just thinking about see him again. Just like it was when we first met. We had a long distance relationship and talked on the phone for 6 mths before we ever saw eachother as a couple. Then when we did we only saw eachother on holidays. I remember the feeling I had just knowing that I was going to see him again. It's more than the butterflies you get when I would see him everyday. Sorry if I'm not making any scense. Just trying to get out whats in my head and heart.
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
I hope you will come back and tell us how you are doing. A lot of us really care about you, and want to make sure you are OK. I'm quite concerned because of your SHOUTING, and seeming finality of posting. Praying for you Stacy.
The more positive energy and confidence you can display, the more it will shake their belief that they are making the right decision. Leave them wanting more
So many good things can be picked up from this board. We just have to put it into practice.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
