Here I am.. Done with the big D. We avoided a trial thanks to the judge and our attorneys. I am at peace with the compromises that were made. xh is not... I can't help that. I had to fight for my child.
The oddest thing is that my parents are totally upset with me. They wanted me to fight harder for full custody even though I still ended up being the primary custodial parent even with the compromises I made. Personally, I wanted to avoid a bloody, hurtful trial. Things worked out. But, my Mother had the gall to tell me that I have handled things poorly from the beginning. UGH... I thought I would get support there.. Unfortunately, it seems like they are still out to get xh.
But, I am relieved. A huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders... *sigh*
Congrats for taking that middle ground and finding it not only stable but working for you.
I think your folks' disappointment to be somewhat understandable to a certain point. But it takes a lot of strength of character to do what you feel is best for you and your child. Just continue to express your love to your parents, show them how this will allow you to move forward with your life, and they will come to understand in time.
there you are!)))))))))))))))))))))) glad that legal mumbojumbo is over)))) You did the BEST for you and your daughter, having an ugly battle was just going to hurt you both, not your mom, so she just doesnt' understand.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Thanks for the well wishes everyone. It's an odd feeling to know that you can move on with your life. I'm not really sure what to do now! I've been fighting for so long.. first for my marriage and then for my child. Now what???
It's funny but now that the decisions are all made I kind of feel bad for the X. I really do. I know he made his bed but I pity the life that he has chosen for himself and I think that the reality of that started to hit him in court. And, somehow I think that he ended up actually respecting me a bit more - who I am and what I stand for - through this whole court process.
Sorry about the lack of support from your parents. I guess sometimes those that love us don't know how to really help us. Hopefully you can forgive them.
I'm not surprised you handled your D with grace, dignity, and everything positive. You are awesome!!! I'm not surprised your X maybe is realizing that now. Duh!!! Karen
I guess sometimes those that love us don't know how to really help us.
I think you are right Karen. They think that helping means taking over and doing what "they" think is right. Hopefully things will just simmer down. What is done is done.
X seems to be finding all kinds of crzy excuses to call me. Weird. Ow must've been out of hearing range yesterday. He must think we're "friends" now.
Did some retail therapy and went out to dinner with some friends. I realized that it kind of creeps me out to come home to an empty house at night.
Now I just need to get my running shoes on more regularly!
