So, over the weekend, H had D overnight on Friday, which was unusual. He has not yet wanted her on a weekend. As it turns out, H and D had dinner at OW's daughter's house.
D was not supposed to have to deal with OW until the end of the school year. H never mentioned it to me, never advised me about it later. I wouldn't have known except that D told me about it.
I am absolutely livid. D should not have to deal with OW at all, let alone be stuck at dinner with her. She shouldn't have to make friends with this woman she knows broke her family apart. She shouldn't have to be influenced by someone with clearly different values than what I've tried to raise her with. And there's not a thing I can do about it. We tried to insert it in the temporary agreement, but it's not binding and I imagine his L advised him about that; in fact, it's illegal even to mention the pagan princess by name! Heaven forbid she'd lose any of her rights!
I don't know how D feels about it--she is clammed up. She wanted me to know, clearly, but then wouldn't talk about it. So I imagine this will now be a regular thing, she'll now be a part of D's life. So since we're still setting up mediation, I intend to clamp down on the flexibility and frequency of visitation. This is absurd.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Sorry you have to deal with this crap from your H. We have such similar stories same age....same circumstance..H totally in love with their SOULMATE....blah blah blah...but him letting your daugter spend time with her that is so unfair to your daughter... I never see my H for he lives in Georgia and we live in Texas...hopefully we wont ever have to deal with that... our kids have already said that they would never go to his house because they live together .... my son said he would not be very nice to her.....
how r you really doing? I have had some crybaby days lately I just miss him so much....but you know what I saw my husband at Christmas they came down because she still has a daughter in high school and other kids down here....what kind of mother would let her 16 / 17 yr. old daughter be left in charge with her older son?I could not do that..these girls at this age need some sort of parental supervision....that just goes to show me what kind of person she is....selfish.....unfit mother...
i wouldn't doubt she ends up pregnant soon... what a shame ... I hope your week goes better I cant believe her made her do that....what a pompass ass....
Forgot to tell you he came down for christmas and he looks so different....long hair gained.. 40lbs or more .seem so full of himself nothing like my husband who left over a yr ago...if we ever reconciled I would have to start from scratch.... getting to know him all over again .....i have no idea who this man is now.........I have a history with him I knew eeverything about him when he was normal... but now I see someone else.
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M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
Would it have any effect if you emailed and asked him nicely to have more consideration for you D's feelings? Say it would be best if she was eased into an R with his new gf, not dropped head-first? Especially since he is not yet divorced from her mother?
WTH is wrong with this man?! He is a chaplain, right? If he has counseled any families in crisis, he has GOT to know what this kind of sh*t does to kids!
I'm sorry he's such a butthead, HM. Wish I could kick his arse for you.
