Oh Sweetie! I just got home from the doctor's office and came in and turned to your post first. I am in tears b/c I am so proud of the strength you have found to do this. I do believe it came from God and it is Him that you will have to continue to draw from b/c Amy is right......you know, she is down the road a little in front of you so she can tell you what to expect. Don't think that the devil won't try his "stuff" to get you upset or feel defeated, but the Bible says, "stronger is He (God) that is in you, than he (the devil) that is of the world." How much more power does a person need?
I wanted to bring out the horn blowers and balloons but then I felt such a .....I don't know what word to use.....solemn feeling, like a thankfulness that you finally realized that you are loved and that you are valuable. I am so thankful that you at last found your self respect again. If your H does not come to his senses, I know that there will be somebody waiting in the wings that is looking for a person like you, somebody that wants to care for you and cherish you and love you and treat you like his queen. That is what you deserve. (Yes, I know I have said this before.) Anyway, I hope that your H will be that man, but if he isn't........that is okay, b/c there will be somebody better. It's not that I try to encourage divorce in these matters, but when a person has tried all they can, even Michelle tells in her book to "drop the rope" as the last resort. Moving on will be your next step. Yes, you are doing the right thing by not showing any anger and just being pleasant, etc. That is perfect!! Christmas....wow....I hope you can keep it up sweetie, and not start "thinking" about the future and get all emotional on yourself b/c you really need to keep that PMA going for ya. As soon as possible, if not before, get started with that "moving on" part of your life. I like what (I think it was Wifey) said about having his stuff packed and waiting. That was priceless and sounded so much like what I would do.....LOL....guess that is why I liked it, huh? But she is right and it will show him you mean business and are not going to shed tears on him anymore (not any he will see at least) and that you are through and ready to start living a life without him. Not to sound hard hearted, but what do you have to lose? Don't say a H b/c you don't have him. But you do have everything to gain. A bright new future with all kinds of possibilities. Sure you will be nervous at first, but you have so many here that will be cheering you on and helping you to keep building that self convidence. You will make it, sweetie. I know you will. You are smart and I believe you have the "right stuff".
You sound so good and to think that most of this seems to have happen just the past few days. Looks like 2009 is going to be your year. It can be....if you make it be.
Love and best wish always, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
{{Neil}} Thank you my friend..I am thankful and proud that I was able to do it at the "right time" so that it wasn't "difficult" if that makes sense..
{{{{Sandi}}}} Wow..what can I say..you made me feel amazingly great about myself..someone to treat me like a "queen"..that's an interesting thought to ponder..I do hope it will be my husband, pray that it will be, but that's the beauty of God, that we have a free will and it may NOT be my husband's choice to see me that way..thank you for your friendship
It's a weird, scary, interesting thought to think of the new territory I'm entering into..and thank you for being there for ME
Yes, Christmas will be interesting..my mom said today, she said, "you know what, Christmas will NOT be as meaningful for you this year because of all of this, no matter how civil or fine it is..but your goal for Christmas should be just to GET thru it.." and be proud that you did
I really can't thank all of you enough for the MAJOR support I have gotten last night and today (well every day really)..but it just means the WORLD to me how much you all care and support and encourage me
Tawnya
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I am so sorry I have not been by sooner. I am immensely proud of you. You have an amazing strenth. It has been clear from the beginning that you have a great dignity and you sure let that show.
I am glad you are feeling peaceful. That is about all any of us can hope for during these times.
Glad you had the clarity you needed to do what you felt was right.
Hi Tawyna, Silver Fox told me to stop your sitch and Wifey because our sitch is similar (H moved out Oct and has started to move accts around). You have a great attitude and are doing much better than myself. It is a difficult time but you are making the best of it. I like the way you speak to your H and how you have learned to value yourself. I am over in Infidelity - losing my sanity these days. I will continue to follow your thread. Have faith and keep praying.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
I'm just dropping by to let you know I'm thinking of you and find your posts (despite everything you're dealing with) upbeat and moving forward! Good on you! I'm a bit down now with stuff so don't have much to offer but did want you to know that you're in my thoughts.
Tawyna, there is another friend that could use some encouragement from all of you here. In fact, it is just amazing b/c I came home yesterday and read your post first, then read hers and both of you had made the same decision the same day! It was about more than my old heart could take....LOL. I had asked Amy to talk to her and she has really done a great job. Of course, Amy is really pushing forward and doing a terrific job in her own life. She is an inspiration to all. Anyway, I just wanted to try to get some more of you all to go to Kristi's thread and give her some encouragement. I think it is called "How to Know when to Let Go" in Newcomers. It is something like that....I should have looked at the title to see if it has changed, but you can find her by her name. She is a sweetie and just needs to meet some more folks on the board and I know that you all have a lot in common and can help each other.
Have to get ready for work. Have a wonderful day. Remember that we all are rooting for you and we believe in you. You are going to make it.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Wow..to just come on here this morning and have so many wonderfully sweet posts to wake up to..thank you so much!
{{Sandi}} I have read some of Kristi's posts, but I haven't lately, I will try to head over there this afternoon after work, get caught up on her sitch and at least give her a hug and whatever she needs! YOU are so kind and sweet to love all of us the way you do..and I hope you know it is reciprocal!
{{{WIT}}} I will have to catch up with you too..sorry you are down my friend..I pray today will be a better day for you!
{{{Hope}}} THANK you for thinking of me while you are going thru this crappy time too my friend..LOVE how you put "alien pod takes over hub" in your signature..I will read your sitch this afternoon after work when I have time to sit and read!! Hugs to you and thank you for stopping by my new friend!
{{Beth}} My dear friend..I hope you are doing better and I thank you for stopping by!! Ugh..this dreary weather doesn't help anything does it?
{{Tomato}} Hi T from T!! How ARE you today?
Well I am fighting off a cold/sinus infection/something that just popped up yesterday..went to bed super early last night and hope it will be short lived so I can enjoy my fun weekend planned for this weekend!
Tawnya
Tawnya
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