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Good gracious..my 5th thread in 2 months..guess that means I'm a yappy gal!

Carpenter was sharing some things he's learned in the 6 months since his bomb-iversary yesterday (how do you like that word, just made it up? \:\) and I thought I may do the same

1) I've learned that this bomb has turned me into a crazy mad cleaning woman (which is HILARIOUS if you knew me before). Not that I was a slob..but NOW I can't even walk BY the sink without washing the dishes..it's ridiculous really..LOL..but some order in my chaos I think

2) I've learned that I had a lot to work on in me. I have finally figured out, after 20 years of marriage and a bomb, that the things that I thought were worth arguing about really weren't.

3) I've learned that I don't really like to be alone, but that I CAN be alone..I have been sleeping alone for at least the past month and I figured, once I was able to do that and really SLEEP, I had hit a milestone..and I can do it. Tho, to be honest, my saddest times seem to be about bedtime.

4) I've learned that I needed to get out there and do stuff: So I have been trying to go out with friends more and started a tai chi class this past week just for starters.

5) I've learned that it's ok to tell people about your sitch because people that really care about you really DO care about you and will check in with you to make sure you eat and are ok (my in real life friends always ask me that I"m eating because I've lost the 15 pounds in the ILYBNILWY diet ;\)

6) And I've learned that the people on this board are simply AMAZING and that you can love people you've never even met, you can care so much about people that you feel they are part of your family even if they are nowhere near you!

Tawnya


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Tawnya

Just wanted to share
Bedtime solo gets easier.....I have started sleeping in the middle...in the beginning I stayed on my side

I can now talk about my sitch and not become overwhelmed with sadness!!

I can interact with my W almost normally....just about everything rolls off me!!

Food for thought

It's good sometimes to reflect....


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{{{Carp}}} I appreciate you getting me to reflect \:\)

You know..it's funny you mention the bed thing..I was thinking as I made up the bed this morning, "I wonder how long before I sleep on "his" side of the bed"..

I hope I get to be like you and let things roll off me..but I know I'm NOT there yet..as you could see from my exchange with my hub this week..

Hope your day is good my "bombiversary/I hate the 11th" sharing friend! \:\)

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Wow! 5th thread already? Seems like you just got here! ;\)

I guess I can't say much, my threads are now old enough to drink, SIGH.

Nice list of things you have learned. I should maybe try that.

SMW


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FWIW, I'm still on my side of the bed...

Don't know why? maybe so I can reach the alarm clock and hit the snooze several times!11


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FWIW, I'm still on my side of the bed...

Don't know why? maybe so I can reach the alarm clock and hit the snooze several times!11


Lazy bum!!! Get another alarm clock!! 1 on each side

Tawnya
You don't wanna be like me!!! That means you would like girls!! LOL


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Well {{{Carp}}} BESIDES the obvious "liking girls" LOL..ok..how about some of your characteristics..cause really I've heard you are like this amazing guy ;\)

{{{Tom}}} Yep..my alarm clock is on "my side" of the bed too..can I use that for an excuse? LOL..probably not, according to Carp.

{{{SMW}}} It DOES sometimes seem like I just got here..and probably 5 threads cause I'm yappy ;\)

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You are inflating my ego!! I thank you for that.....
I am gonna put a funny pic up on my FB page...should give everyone a good laugh


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I moved to H's side of the bed immediately...but, it's also a different bed...so, maybe that's the reason I didn't think much about it. He had the side next to the clock, and I hated that I couldn't see the clock when I woke up in the middle of the night. So, when he left (he took the bed); I set up my bed and new mattress and started sleeping on his side. Now, it's not "his" side any longer! That's a nice feeling too!!! In fact, I might get a new comforter after Christmas, and I'm leaning toward something very girly!!!

You sound good today, Tawnya!! I liked your list...thought about making my own, but it would be so long!

Hugs to you!
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Tawnya,

Time for me to stop focusing on just my pain today. I am really impressed with your list of insights. It is a good time for me to read them. You have accomplished a lot!

You are a constant inspiration to me. Whenever I am feeling grouchy or like having a pity-party, I think about your near-constant PMA on these boards and try really hard to be like you. Thank you for that.

Beth


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