My husband just moved in his O/W .....and he wants to come see our daughter for xmas....I dont know what to do...do I let him see her???? The wounds are still tooo fresh...I personally dont want to see him... but that is me... my daughter does miss her father but she hates what he has done to our family.....
She still says Mom, Dad will be back... dont worry....and he really is only coming to be with her family...
Please help me come to a decision....I know what Jesus would do....but I am not Jesus......
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
I would think it's best she sees her dad since we're not supposed to keep our kids from their parents unless ofcourse in an abusive situation. But, she's 14. What does she want? Does she want to see him, or is the hurt too much for her as well?
I havent asked her but she just recently spoke to her dad...she was too mad at him since he moved in the O/W....I guess I should ask what she wants....he sounded excited to come see her since she has been distant since her moved her in...
My daughter know my faith ... how I am trusting God with our circumstances..but the other night I was crying and she told me Mom you know he is going to come back....I feel bad because when these times come I feel as if she is taking care of me..
Dont have those days very often anymore....getting so much better I remember when the bomb was dropped I would hear everybody in here tell me it will get better... and I remember thinking and saying to myself... this will never get better how can it?? my husband no longer loves he is in love with another woman...how right you all were...it does get better
I still have days when I just cant believe this has happened to us.....but yes I will ask her what she wants....I want her to be happy I want her to decide whether she wants to see her dad...
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
I personally think that's a good start. Ask her. She's "old enough" to know that choice. If she doesn't want to see him, see why. What are her fears, thoughts, etc. And take it from there. Maybe H can compromise and see her at your place for an hour or so and that's it. Her day shouldn't be ruined because of this.
Thanks so much for your advice...sometimes I just cant think anymore...I know I am the parent here but sometimes I wonder when it comes to these things.....about her seeing him....if there is anything I could for her .... to not to have gone thru this I would of done it... no hesitations what so ever... but all I can do is just love her more than life itself..
Be Blessed In Jesus Name..
I guess I better get back to owrk before they dock my check...
Again thank you
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
Take it easy IRMAT. We're all in this together. I was thinking this morning that at least I know I can come here and be understood. It's much better than being alone! Have a good afternoon at work!
