But then, court is in just a little over 2 weeks so I guess I should anticipate him acting a little more human between now and then to impress the judge. Again, playing the system. Too little too late, I think. However, I am very thankful to have the $150--it will buy a lot of groceries. And I put $20 in my gas tank last evening--and it's almost full! Gotta love that!
It's amazing what a looming court date does to "change" our WAS. I guess for a little while at least! But I'm glad you have the extra $$ over the holidays!!! Happy Thanksgiving!!! Karen
I understand exactly where you are coming from, Hoosier! And it absolutely does get better...but it does take time. The only advice I can give is to not fight the changes you will go through. Some of them will be painful and scary, but there is a plan.
Honey...keep your chin up. You will be better on the other side of this. Trust me on that....
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Thank you for asking. It's been pretty uneventful. This is a good thing. H was on-call in the hospital until 8 pm on Thanksgiving, so there was no issue about where D would be. She and I went over to some friends' house (I brought homemade pumpkin pies--and they went over well!). It was very low-intensity and pleasant. D had a choir concert Friday at a museum to welcome Santa; H brought her there. I stood elsewhere; I watched him look for me thru the concert, but I really didn't want to stand with him. After the concert D and I went thru the museum (there was a special chocolate exhibit!!). She invited H but he had other plans. After the museum, D and I went home to change and have lunch, and then picked up some of her friends to go see "Twilight." It's pretty rare that we see a first-run movie, but we did a matinee and it was fun. I sat one row in front of the girls. This morning D woke up sick (just a bad cold, I think) so we just hung out at home all day. Tomorrow, probably more of the same. Which is fine--I'm getting things cleared out and cleaned up. Sent a bunch of H's sweaters and all his pipes with D on Thursday night.
I also have some data entry to do for work--just found out I can do it at home on a web-based program. This beats staying late at school every day. I work for several different programs within other programs within a large hospital system--not for the school system--so everyone wants data; in addition, my position is grant-funded, which means even more data. Probably more than you wanted to know!
Thanksgiving has never been a holiday that carried a lot of emotional investment for me. So I haven't had a lot of emotional impact on this "first year as a non-family" holiday.
How was your holiday, Pup?
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Hmama, this thanksgiving, I'm thankful for friends like you. Remember too, no matter the size of the family, home & family is where the heart is. You & D make a perfect family !
Hugs & Love
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Karen