Is there anyone out there that has had a 2 time WAW. She left 1.5 years ago we got back together after a month. Things went well for the first 9 mos or so and then the last three months haven't been great. Did not stick to DBing as I should have and went back to old ways. Just wondering if anyone has had any success the second time around or did I screw up the opportunity I was given.
I'm very sorry that you're going through this again. I'm going through my first WAW right now and the pain that I am feeling is something that I never want to feel again.
Since this happened to you a second time and it seems that you have owned the fact that you went back to your old ways, can you rewind a bit and understand why that happened?
I don't know if she will come back or not but if I was in your shoes, I would ask myself what was it that allowed myself to go back to my old ways. Were you too comfortable and you just slowly slipped back?
Regardless if she comes back or not, maybe you should get some help from either a councelor or a family member or friend and have them help keep you on track. Have someone remind you every so often about the past so that you keep it in the front of your mind that you really don't want to regress back into the old ways.
At this point in time I never want to be that person again. Maybe if you found some things that would interest and motivate you to stay in the "new" you that would help keep it there.
I think that if I didn't do much and kept the same old interests that I could easily go back to the old ways.
If there are things that you want to ask besides what you did above maybe others can post and give you a hand at helping you see what you might be able to do to improve yourself in a fashion that would prevent this from happening again.
I'm not perfect by a longshot but I try very hard to see my weaknesses and face them head on and correct them. I may be too late but there will be no way that I will give up until it is over.
I'm interested in trying to help you identify things that you could do to understand yourself better which will help prevent you from regressing to the old ways again. So if you're willing to talk a bit more about what you think happened maybe we can help out a bit.
