Physically separated exactly 2 months W filed for D 1 week ago Seeing OM steady for 1 month Getting along with W pleasantly 3 weeks
well folks (and folkettes) I'd imagine if I hadn't found this site and taken most (notice I don't say all) of your advice, my W would hate my guts and not say a word to me. I have found that I spent every minute of every day worrying and obsessing over things that were out of my control. It's like being perfectly healthy and trying to determine exactly what day you're going to die. Not healthy. It has begun to bother my wife to no end that despite being separated, she has to know where I am, what I do, and who with at all times, and when she doesn't get her answers, i'm a "d!ck." Oh, how the shoe goes on the other foot In 2 months, (introspectively speaking) I have learned to detach to the point where I have gone out with people I never have before, exercised more and ate less junk food, gotten closer to my in laws, and made it clear to my wife that I don't need her to be happy. it's a choice after all. As far as she knows, I'm going to sign the D papers when I get served. I'd like to thank everyone for all the advice. I took ALL of it, but didn't necessarily use it all. some advice works for some people, other advice doesn't. I am blessed to have found each and every one of you, especially the vets here. It was, for the most part, a very very dark summer over my head, but just like before I met my wife, there's more to life than this. oh there's a quote I just thought of it. copyright me.
"there's more to life than just your wife"
I have asked for the Lord's and my wife's forgiveness for my actions leading up to our separation, and I ask that he will watch over my son who is caught up in the middle and so young; thankfully he doesn't know better yet. I also ask for everyone here to take a minute during the day, put down what they're doing, and say a prayer for all those members of these boards who may or may not have reconciled with their partners, and I sincerely hope everyone makes it through the storm. We're all in this together.
Good Company
p.s. Dear Wife, I love you and adore you. please come back.....
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I guess I will have to read your threads...but I agree with the prayers and mine are with you!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I left a message on my phone saying i went to the movies, and wouldn't you know it. 15 minutes into it, W texts me "are you available ?" hasn't texted me anything like that in months, but when she knows I'm out, she expects me to be there. Think she was testing me.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
In 2 months, (introspectively speaking) I have learned to detach to the point where I have gone out with people I never have before, exercised more and ate less junk food, gotten closer to my in laws, and made it clear to my wife that I don't need her to be happy. it's a choice after all. As far as she knows, I'm going to sign the D papers when I get served. I'd like to thank everyone for all the advice. I took ALL of it, but didn't necessarily use it all. some advice works for some people, other advice doesn't. I am blessed to have found each and every one of you, especially the vets here. It was, for the most part, a very very dark summer over my head, but just like before I met my wife, there's more to life than this. oh there's a quote I just thought of it. copyright me. 