I was taking S out for driving practice and brought H his mail.
He was sitting ourside in his front yard with a neighbour that is doing the cement for his driveway.
I pretended not to see him right away and he called me over. Sounded happy to see me.
Introduced me to John and asked me if I wanted a beer I said I was taking S for a drive and he said come on have a beer.
Ok I sat down and we talked. John asked how we knew each other .
H was getting up to get beer we both didn't know what to say and H said "she is my ex. No I'm her ex."
Wow! that was weird. "Ex..." I hate that word!
Talked , laughed and talked.
Kept offering beers.
Could tell H was "all in the bag" and after 2 beers I was looped too.
Anyway John had to leave and S,H and myself talked and laughed a bit and then I asked S if he was ready to go.
Yup and I picked up empty bottles and put stuff in H's garage and H reached out and we kissed on the lips and hugged. A big long hug and a nice back rub to each other,and H went Mmmmmmmmand and patted my butt
I said see ya and left with a little wiggle and left him wanting more, I hope.
Wow , I think it was a good visit and I was calm, positive and noticed H look at me more than once....and then again. I did dress to look good...not really hot because it is daytime after all ;).
So what do you all think?????
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
That sounds awesome! Now, try to lower your expectations, don't worry about what he is thinking and wait for him to contact you. Easier said than done, I know!
I've been on another forum and getting some great support and advice....
In the three months that I have been away, H is not angry...
because when he heads in that direction I put the breaks on him...
he changes his tone and we can talk....
He seems to be alot calmer and is peeking out of the man cave....
My oldest S22 moved in with him....
it was hard at first but S needed to be with his dad...
he missed him terribly and before the roof fell, S22 idolized H
S needed to do what he needed for himself and it's all good...
H has kept contact with me weather its through S19, who lives with me, or calls me direct....every week since he moved out in March
last week was the first time he had no contact with me for 2 weeks and He dropped some canning over for me.....I called to thank him and we talked and laughed...just simple things...it was good.....
we get along good but I'm not expecting anything....
I'm ok with not talking to him.....the space is good and when I do...it's ok too
he always makes the initial contact...or he drops something off for me...
kind gestures are good and I can handle that
I think OW is out of the picture but really right now I don't care...
that's his journey to take....I'm on my own...
I'm so much more at peace and I'm finally at the stage where I don't have to keep busy every second.....
I do believe I'm on my way to detaching because I know I have gotten a life....
Slow and steady and no expectations......
Now I have been reading up on your situation and you seem to be doing ok.....
remember new attitude.....slow and steady and have patience.....
Keep your chin up Hon....I reember you were one of the firsts to reply to me when I started.......
Talk to me if you need and we can walk together.....
You may want to join me on the other forum....it's very good also......
I'll keep in touch
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
