piecing and renovating... similarities

[treesa2]

Doing bathroom renovations is a lot like piecing a marriage together ya know?
It's a helluva alot of work. Lots or patching and ripping out of old stuff before you can put up the new stuff.. and a whole whack of crap (well not REAL crap) has to be pitched!

Today, H and I went out to lunch... at his invitation. First time since before pre bomb that we went out alone together. For about 15 panicky seconds I thought I was gonna hear... "ya know... this just isn't working" pulling the ole tell the bad news in the restaurant scenario... but... I got over that one really quickly and pulled up some PMA.

Had a nice quick lunch- just too hot at home to cook even with the A/C running full tilt - flirted a bit... smiled and even though there were a few awkward moments in my opinion, we had a nice time. I thanked him, he came home and promptly started snoring on the coach rather than lay down the new floor! sigh... so damn hard to get good help these days!

Old me would have been fuming about this. I figure it will get done when it gets done... and I will just have to live a little longer with baseboards, door frames, paint, trays etc etc in the middle of my living and dining room! This too shall soon pass... when H psychs himself up to get it done.

I am considering having a bathroom open house and serving cold drinks in the new fibreglass tub upstairs, and having folks test out the new loos and rating the comfort levels and colours of the new rooms.

Let me find ALL the links to my story.. it's only been 17 months on this forum and 20 since the bomb!

Piece by piece... slowlee slowlee.... there is hope and faith and love... somewhere in this mess!

tree

[ANS]

So...

We got a thread dedicated to bathroom humour?

[treesa2]

Andy it's a bad trashy metaphor for my marriage perhaps? Or it is time to lighten up a bit.

Too much heavy duty stuff on the newbies forums... need to start laughing a little... not that the marriage isn't a serious thing... but.... hey... it's where my head is at these days...( not quite in the toilet) more on the decorating and colour phase actually!

And gee... I was hoping you'd be by here to please make the links for me to my long story of renovating... ( piecing) the R together! oh please... oh great guru of the links.... there's a coffee in it for ya?

[lily]

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Put a copy of "Passionate Marriage" in the new loo.

[ANS]

OK, Tree. Here ya go:

to go on the trip or not.... the expensive hockey tickets!
how do you "go dark" when living together with kids?
slow dancing or tapping furiously - part 2
I THINK the divorce is busted?!!! NOW what?/
piece by piece like slowlee slowlee

[lily]

Did I just suggest to put a book into the toilet? I mean to place the book into the room where the 'loo' is or . . .we call it the 'throne room'. You know what I mean. Sage took my copy of the book into there for reading material... I just smiled to myself and kept my mouth shut.

[treesa2]

I got it Lily....
I call it H's throne room too! There will be a book shelf in there for him! The main floor one... I prefer to read in bed or with my feet up on the chesterfield.

And was thinking today as I read something both you and Wilma or Duchess talked about, that finding Passionate Marriage might be a good idea...

Shall see what I can sereptitiously pull off.

Glad to know you are here reading Lily!

And thanks Andy... great link-king! You can visit our throne room anytime! I'm buyin next time!
bathroom humour.... gotta love it!

[ANS]

Throne room, eh? Where's Duchess?

[ANS]

It's funny that you mentioned 17 months, Tree. It made me look at your registration date... March 02/2001.

Guess when I registered? April 02/2001. Spooky, eh?

[treesa2]

It's no small wonder that renovations cause arguments, frustrations, and worse!

Today was the day the linoleum was to be glued down on top of the old floor in the teeny tiny Throne Room!

My goodness... glue is on the floor and H asks for help. Well, he kept telling me to DO THIS... and I guess I must have been doing THAT. His frustration level was going up, he's saying "no no NOT like THAT... like THIS!!" as his voice goes up. I refused to get engaged in his anger and frustration. I was at a meeting today... and picture this... there I was kneeling down between his legs with linoleum in my hands as he's barking out commands trying to drop the flooring on the opposite side of me.
He FINALLY explained what he wanted me to do in such a way that FINALLY I grasped it... and said... "oh... THIS is what you want! I can do THIS."
We get the piece of flooring on the floor, I have glue on my nice dress because of course I wasn't doing it the 'right way' .

It's down and done and he says "damn it's hard to get good help!" I say "damn right, and the direction they give... sheesh... takes four times before someone finally gets it right!" I smile and tell him I have to get back to work. Not a single F sharp outta my mouth!

This is sooooo new wave behavior for me. What would most of us had done in this situation? Probably would have said... F U pal... put your own damn floor on the ground. If you would talk so I understood or some such thing... and the entire event would have been blown totally out of proportion.
In any case I high tailed it back up to the office because the cursing was getting louder. Something didn't go right, but I just don't want to know! sigh...
Here's the mantra... this too shall pass... we shall have a lovely throne room... he's looking for perfection... this too shall pass.

tree
who hopes HER H never decides to post here!

[ August 14, 2002, 11:08 AM: Message edited by: treesa2 ]