Thanks sara. I hope I did a good job. I am working hard here, to be strong for the girls, strong in front of H, and strong in general. Sometimes I want to get back in bed. lol
You Must be strong. I just checked and there are 34 people Viewing this thread right now...
H
I was one of the 34 too, I always read your thread, just don;t post much because you are light years ahead of me with how you cope with things. Take care.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
girlfrom..I need to find your thread. I see from your posts you are fairly new. Welcome! Thank you so much for your support.
neecy, girl, you are so strong too. I am not light years ahead on coping, more numb to it since its been so long. Thank you.
Dr. Love, wanted to also mention I totally will change what I say to the girls. D6 always asks who will get her off the bus, and I used to say with confidence "Daddy will". Not anymore. She didn't ask today but I told her to come home (instead of walking to a neighbors) and she was fine with that. Thanks for your advice. Sorry about your 1st wife.
Dr. Love, wanted to also mention I totally will change what I say to the girls. D6 always asks who will get her off the bus, and I used to say with confidence "Daddy will". Not anymore. She didn't ask today but I told her to come home (instead of walking to a neighbors) and she was fine with that. Thanks for your advice. Sorry about your 1st wife.
LWB,
No reason to be sorry about 1st W. If it was not for her I would never have met my D's.. BUT.... here is another story for ya.. This is where I have a problem when people say. "Loving someone is a choice".
My 1st W and I went out in high school. After Graduation I broke up with her. THEN one Friday night I get a phone call that she took a bunch of pills and was going to kill herself because of our "Break up". I rushed over to her house and brought some stuff that made her throw up. I sat with her all night. All the time thinking "She must really love me to kill herself over our Breakup, How can I leave someone like that. So I stayed and "Learned" to love her. I made a choice to stay in a relationship that I did not want. Of course after a while I did learn to love her but....Did I stay and give up opportunities for a happy life for the wrong reasons??? I will never know. What I do know is that if I had not stayed I would not have two beautiful D's now...
And another thing that I learned about after the D. I had custody of my babies…. W did take them for a little while and I was worried that they would grow up to think Daddy was the mean one because he made us behave and would spank us when we didn’t. BUT….. MOM was the one that took up places Never disciplined us. And bought us fun things not clothes….
I NEVER talked bad about my Ex to or around my D’s. I NEVER changed my phone # (I have had the same number for 30 years now so Ex W could NEVER say she did not know how to contact the girls….
I let the cards fall where the may and it has paid off. The girls have formed their own opinion about their “birth Mom”….
Take care LWB
I am thinking about ya
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
[/quote].Did I stay and give up opportunities for a happy life for the wrong reasons??? I will never know. What I do know is that if I had not stayed I would not have two beautiful D's now...[quote]
H,
I think you answered this one yourself.
God has a reason for everything and we have to trust that and learn from it. I feel im getting there but, We learn something new in this life everyday. WHats my Horoscope today?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
.Did I stay and give up opportunities for a happy life for the wrong reasons??? I will never know. What I do know is that if I had not stayed I would not have two beautiful D's now...
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H,
I think you answered this one yourself.
God has a reason for everything and we have to trust that and learn from it. I feel im getting there but, We learn something new in this life everyday. WHats my Horoscope today?
JAK
Sagittarius November 22 - December 21 Listen to the conservative voice inside of you today. This is a day to play it safe and hold on tight to the things that are yours. As much as you would like to give your time to others, you need to let them fend for themselves. If you get too involved and help them too much, you will only encourage them to come back to you again and again when the going gets rough. You can't send that message, especially to the people you care about. Be a supportive person, but do not be an enabler. Capricorn December 22 - January 19 Today is a good day to get in some cleaning -- whether that means simply tidying up a dirty room or clearing up a messy misunderstanding between you and a good friend. You have the positive feelings and high energy that the task requires, so you will enjoy every minute of the effort -- especially since you know already how wonderful the results of your efforts will be. Roll up your sleeves and get going on this project as early in the day as you can.
The Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Thank you. 
