Kent- the driving car thing... oh yeah... the feelings... My C says the same thing... some of it rooted - she says - to things my mom would say or do... the fatalistic thing that even though I see one thing... the feelings I am having do not match what is really going on. Whoa... those are tough to change... but change they must. Trying to rid myself of things I heard all my life... "things are good... they'll get bad!" have to be really worked hard to be removed.
As Michele says... DBing really does become a way of life. You can't stop... it's really working on the marriage and the R and being aware all the time isn't it?
R8ch... will son and H consent to some sort of "facilitated process" - let's not use the C word... - to help them forge a new relationship and some modicum of respect or SOMETHING for each other?? So that the one person they BOTH love and respect can find peace and hapiness?
Blimey I see a few faces from the good and not so good old days...does that mean were comming out the other side.....who knows.
Rachel...nuts..........nar...not you. I think what your feeling is normal, as you said your getting on great these days but....and here it is (maybe)...you dont want to lose that (getting on great) if he moves back in. NORMAL...but one day it will happen.
The only thing I would say is thisYou have to ready for it
Now for me, my wife told me on new years day she wants to make a go of our marriage...the 1st 2 weeks were fantastic, she was looking in the local papers for a house for the family to live together in, talking about vactions in the summer and them BAM..."hello, is there anyone there"..she started to back off...so I did the same.
It turns out she has no physical attraction for me at all and its killing her. All we do now is spend time togetehr at weekends at I have dinner with W and S on a Wed night. Were getting on great, she has told me she feels she can talk to me for hours on end and she does love me and cares for me very deeply...but.....no sex.
She really does want this to work I believe, but this lack of feeling on her part is ripping her apart....
Like you R8 its been a long haul...but another few months wont hurt I spose.
