Your situation -- and your whole convo with your wife -- reminds me sooooo much of my sitch with my W last summer that it's scary.
I agree with your interpretation of it. It's common "script" for the spouse having an affair to want to "normalize" things, and to want everyone to "just go along" with their plan.
I think you handled it beautifully.
I would not engage her from this point forward in any R or M talk. "That's for the attorneys to decide," or "I'll need to ask my attorney about that" should be your response. She's desperately wanting to tie up her guilt and her marital loose ends on her way out, but it's simply not your job to help her feel good about all this.
Never rescue an infidel from the consequences of their infidelity.
I love how you called it a common "script". In one of the not so pleasant conversations with my H, he said....I just want this to end peacefully. Really, then why are you yelling at me, telling me that if you compared me to OW, she's a fine, classy meal and I'm a can of soup that's been on the grocery store shelf too long. No exaggeration on that example either. Really nice way to keep things civilized, huh? I've met OW. I'd hardly classify her in that manner.
And, I love you saying never rescue an infidel.
Mark, wish I could grab all the DB ladies for a big group hug.....and then we could all go out for fish tacos! I love 'em too! Oh, I'll even buy a few rounds of drinks!
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 03/14/0808:47 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I realized it after it was too late to edit! Didn't mean for it to come across that way, but after I read it I saw it too! Oops. 
