Well, Cookie Chick is my alter ego. She's the girl with the dream of having her own cookie business. She's the one who usually doesn't have the time to do it anymore because Supermom took over. She's the one who just realized that she has every other weekend 'available' and needs to GAL!
So with Easter around the corner, this weekend coming up I am baking my little butt off and I can't wait! I've been having a great time just planning for again. I didn't realize just how badly I needed a focus and now that I've got one I'm starting to feel rejuvinated and inspired again. It feels good!
My thread locked on Friday and I purposely haven't started a new thread until tonight. I made a concious decision not to post this weekend. For one thing it was crazy crazy crazy as it is just me, a 3 yr old and a 4 month old! But also because I needed to step away from the constant analysis of H, of myself and of the sitch in general. I've been reading quite a bit and it feels good to have that focus again too. I love and need the support of these boards. In fact I still checked up on a lot of people's threads over the weekend...I just did it quickly and didn't post. But I need to limit myself because I can get too absorbed in it and I'm realizing that it's hindering my GAL. It's stopping me from moving on with my life. And I don't mean moving on without H and accepting this is the fate of our marriage. But the truth is, I do have to accept the CURRENT circumstances and make the best of them...all the while hoping somewhere in the back of my head that H will snap out of it. Ironically (and obviously) all of that is what I'm supposed to if I'm to attract him back amyway. So it's win / win.
Having said all of those things...tomorrow I meet with my lawyer! I'm trying to look it at from a positive point of view. That knowledge is power and right now I'm just gathering knowledge so I am in a position to make the best possible decisions for ME and for my children. Of course I'm dreading it, but I've got to do it!
D and I had a great weekend. Today she and I hit the mall just the two of us (I left S home with my MOM for an hour). We had fun and it was really great to spend some one on one time with her. I really am blessed with 2 wonderful children and if not for them right now I know I wouldn't be getting out of bed every day. Thank God for them! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
Love the new title, so proud of you, you have now idea!!
I have said from the beginning I would buy your cookies. Maybe I could be you Northern NJ sales rep. Maybe it could be my career change in helping you see your cookies!
You know we need to start sampling the products, my mouth is watering for one!
hugs bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
Sorry about the spelling last night, I meant to say now you have a new idea
And i want to sell your cookies along with seeing them.
Gee must have been more tired than i thought. LOL
Still, I want a cookie!
bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
So glad to hear you are positive and proactive!!! Have fun with the cookie biz. I think its a great idea.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I made a concious decision not to post this weekend...But also because I needed to step away from the constant analysis of H, of myself and of the sitch in general.
Interesting you posted this because I think at times if one is not careful, you run the risk of not GAL b/c you are just stuck in R thoughts. Got to find a balance. I've done exactly what you state above and it helps. It's hard not to hope, wish, think, analyze, find new plans, blah blah...but a break is necessary for your own health.
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tomorrow I meet with my lawyer! I'm trying to look it at from a positive point of view. That knowledge is power and right now I'm just gathering knowledge so I am in a position to make the best possible decisions for ME and for my children.
knowledge is most definitely power...I learned my WAW has no grounds for fault and also that my WAW cannot get a no-fault/irreconcilable differences in my state without me signing. In short, she cannot get one. Not that it changes her mindset but it is definitely good to know. And that's my point. It really helps to just know what you are up against such as child custody laws and such...Be positive and do as you state...oh and last thing...most D lawyers want your money and are not interested in the alternatives to a D. So, remember you want someone who has your best interests and desires in mind and not some money shark...
Hi Jenny. I'm glad to hear that you are going to move forward with your cookie business idea. I think it's a great GAL activity and hopefully you can make some extra cash while your at it.
It sounds like you had a nice weekend too. Sometimes you've got to step back from all of this for a moment or two. It helps you gain perspective and to see the bigger picture. It seems like you're doing much better these days.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
I'm really lucky when it comes to the cookies because I have an established clientel from friends, family & colleagues. As I've said I'm usually turning away business because it's just me and they are very time consuming to make. I've made some really good money doing it. I've done a couple weddings (the giveaways) and I usually do a lot at Christmas time.
I'm still trying to figure out a way to get a picture up to show them off.
Bear...e-mail me at mamabean@ live .ca (without the spaces) and I'll send you a picture.
jmw128...thanks for the advice on the lawyer. My L from the getgo has said she is not the most litigious of lawyers. She knows I don't want this and that I am in no hurry to move things along. In fact she had to cancel out appmt today because they're having systems issues and reschedule for later in the week. Her exact words back to me were..."You're not in a big hurry anyway, right?".
H is picking up S tonight for a few hours and D is with him overnight. I can use the break, it was a long weekend. S has been sleeping 8 hour stretches at night so I've finally been getting some sleep. I need it because I've still got this cough and it's been over 2 weeks!
Tonight I start my on-line class with Oprah! I'm really looking forward to it. This book could not have come at a better time for me.
Well, nothing else to report! It is absolutely gorgeous outside (meaning the temperature is above freezing!). Things are melting...hopefully these 4 foot snow banks will be gone soon!
J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
I'm relieved for you that your L appt has been delayed.. more time for DBing even if only a couple of days...
I'd like to see your cookies too. Do you mind if I email you as well?
And congrats on the 8 hours of sleep your son is giving you.. I remember back when that change took place with my D2 and I was amazed at how much more human I felt.. instead of walking around like a zombie!
