Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I placed a link to it on Michele's thread at the top. While I understand everyone's interests in the links.....the links lead to reasons for MLC, focusing on understanding, and not solutions. In the end, focusing on the philosophies of it all is distracting to making progress.
Many on this forum get to the point where it is all in their spouses hands and there is nothing they can do....and it leads to a fair amount of blaming.
Sure...there is a lot of waiting and down time....but....REAL GIVING, beginning with LISTENING.....and building your skills such as taught here in Divorce Remedy can take you a LONG WAY in saving your marriage, and making it wonderful.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Excellent post. Great work getting the new attitude out there.
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Many on this forum get to the point where it is all in their spouses hands and there is nothing they can do....and it leads to a fair amount of blaming.
And it is such a great time to go after your own goals and shape yourself as the person you want to be.
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REAL GIVING, beginning with LISTENING.....and building your skills such as taught here in Divorce Remedy can take you a LONG WAY in saving your marriage, and making it wonderful.
And if I may add, even though I didn't save my marriage, I did save a personal relationship with the mother of my children. Yes, it did take two, but I was one of them. And it pays dividends for all of us, especially my children.
Many on this forum get to the point where it is all in their spouses hands and there is nothing they can do....and it leads to a fair amount of blaming.
My curiosity is absolutely peaked. Because...No one here who understands or thinks they understand MLC has ever said the MLCer is in control of the marriage, that the LBS can do nothing. We have always told the LBS to get control back of themselves. To empower themselves to better themselves. We are the ones who had to deal with an MLCer. The book is absolutely fantastic. I'd be divorced without DB. But we got here with the book and first hand experience.
Like Imp when quantatatives are being used, I am curious to the 'many' statement.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
