MLC BS/2?

[Rollercoasterider]

Patrick,

At the expense of seeming a sheep, I'm with the herd; don't do it!

she's already filed...I have to answer to the petition by Feb 14

You seem to think this is a reason to discuss it with her. I still say Don't do it!

You have to answer to the petition, not to the wife. As Jack said

Lawyer up cowboy.

Braveheart's explanation was beautiful. Re-read it if you are confused with why we advice you not to have this meeting.

Don't worry about MLC--where she's at, what it means etc.

But at the same time, if you take the attitude that MLC is B.S. you may harden your heart toward unforgiveness. I've seen it happen and the result on the LBS is not pretty--bitter and angry instead of healed.

We don't use it as an excuse for their behaviour, but rather as something to help us with compassion--though we should be compassionate anyway.

HUGS,
RCR

[Patrick325]

I cancelled, she wanted to know what it was I wanted to talk about so I had to tell her...I told her I was going to ask you to cancel the D but I decided not to ask you..and i proceeded to tell her how it would hurt us both financially...but it didn't matter...so I am lawyering up and we'll see what happens......DBing is tough, it feels like you are just letting everything happen..I'm used to fighting for what I want...it's probably over!

[Virtually_Handsome]

Dude! You didn't cancel, you just did it another way! What did you not tell her that you planned to tell her?

Her: "What did you want to talk about?"
You: "It doesn'e matter, it isn't important now."

Instead, you went ahead and tried to control her, I know you don't see it that way, but I am sure she does!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I told her I was going to ask you to cancel the D but I decided not to ask

From the movie Lucky Number Slevin

Slevin: Anything else you want to tell me?
The Boss: I suppose I don't need to say anything as trite and cliched as "go to the police and you're a dead man".
Slevin: I think you just did.
The Boss: I guess I did.

[Patrick325]

Now she's trying to play the kids against me d14 is still staying with me mostly full time but tonight I went to get d11 from her house but my d didn't want to come. I told her she didn't have a choice because she was scheduled to stay with me. She refused mainly because i told her that her friend couldn't spend the night because we were shopping for my other d11's bday gift. But my W would let her spend the night there. I blew up and told my w I would use this against her in court.....she said bring it on...I suck at DBing....it's all going down hill fast. My kids know I have no control over what they do. The cops told my W and I that until we get a court order the kids could go or stay. My W thinks I am keeping d14 from her, so she is trying to get back at me. But I told my w that d14 can stay with her whenever she wants as long as she isn't being forced to go over the OM's house if she doesn't want or that my W isn't leaving her alone at night while she is hanging out over there....I hate this!!

[Patrick325]

I am having a pretty bad day today..it's my wife's bday and she is going out to breakfast with the OM and my kids. I passed her driving by me yesterday. She was driving his truck....It's like she has moved on to another life. I think I have to try and forget about her...but I don't know how. My life always centered around my family and now it's in pieces. I am pondering dating again...I need to have somebody else to think about, care about, care about me....Who knows maybe the feeling will subside. But I wonder if it's worth hanging on all this time in misery

[Patrick325]

should I call her and wish her happy birthday??

[Patrick325]

Jack can you read my last three posts??

[braveheart]

Patrick, do what you want to, but I strongly suggest that you DO NOT CONTACT HER FOR ANY REASON. Look at what has happened in the last bit, everytime you have talked to her, regardless of the reason, its ended up in a fight and its gone against you.

[Patrick325]

I agree, but if I just keep ignoring her won't it just seperate us more? It jut feels like I am drifting farther and farther away from her. I mean, that's fine if we are not getting to get back together. But in that case why am I hanging on? This has been aterrible day for me