Hi Friends, I would like to start this thread with a quote;
‘People avoid change until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of changing.’
Unknown.
It has been along time since I gave an update. In June XW Liz and OM Nic moved house yet again. So on average they move every 8 months and yet again they have moved into a good property this time a detached rented house. All the houses they have moved into since Jan 06 have all been up for sale and the owners/estate agents can’t find a buyer so I believe Nic and Liz get a good bit knocked off the rent. The true market rent for a property like this one would be over £600 per month.
Nic has now been off work 25 months. Repetitive injury or so he says, he’s had 2 minor op’s for tennis elbow he also complains about his shoulder and hand. In 06 he had an op on his varicose veins. So I think he must be on incapacity benefit of £69 per week extra on top of his social security benefit. Liz still only works part time and earns about £100 per week. And Nic’s son still lives with them and thru college term time my middle D Dawn spends 2 nites a week there.
Get this, Liz got the divorce settlement money in Nov 06 and she hasn’t bought anything new other than a few clothes with the cash. Very rarely does Liz ring our eldest D’s, she sends them Text’s. Liz told middle D Louise “I’ve stopped calling you because I can’t afford to pay my phone bill.” At one point she was asking Dawn to pay towards the internet. Saying Nic’s son and you use it the most (and the son is paying for his share) how about £5 a month off you then towards it. Dawn thought to herself ‘go and get lost’ and said to me “I ain’t paying anything, and if they expect me to pay then I’ll stop going there.”
Nic upset my 2 eldest when they paid them a visit. Nic just kept saying to them how wonderful they both were doing at work and Uni. And he just wouldn’t shut up while they were watching TV. Later on Liz shouted at Nic and told him to keep quite. Liz said “Nic does get like that when he’s been drinking.” Dawn tells me that on week days Nic leaves the house at about 11am and goes drinking till about mid afternoon. Also Dawn has heard her mum getting her hair off with Nic. And get this before they moved house again Dawn heard Nic upstairs sobbing and saying to Liz “I’m a failure.” And both Louise and Dawn get the same gut reaction that their mum doesn’t even like Nic. So go figure that one then!
Dawn only saw her mum 3 times from the beginning of June till late Sept. And the first nite back there Dawn said to her mum “I’m only staying 1 nite this week coz I want to go home and play with me mates”. And Liz started to cry (this is the first time Liz has cried in front of any of her D’s for 3 years). The following morning Liz started to cry again and said to Dawn “well if you’re happy then I’m happy”. So it sounds like a happy household!
Over the past year she looks to have lost about half the weight she put on when she moved in with Nic and her hair colour is no longer blonde.
I think I stopped standing for my M in about early March 06 when Liz agreed the settlement. I’m still open to all possibilities but I know it would take a miracle for Liz to sort herself out.
Hi Delboy, good to hear from you, and interesting update, life does not seem the preverbial bed of roses for Liz. Wonder if the weight loss is due to stress.
Seasonal greetings to you, you do sound in a good disposition.
I will be in old blighty, next saturday for Christmas and New year.
