The hasbend has exposed our D4 to his new GF without discussing it with me first. When all this started he made a very big deal about her not meeting people that we may be casually dating etc and discussing it with each other first and how to explain it to her. Now I have a small child crying and feeling insecure because "Daddy has a new girlfriend and doesn't love Mommy anymore and Mommy's going to get a new boyfriend too". This is every day. How do you deal with that?
I know I can't control him or his actions. I did confront him about this and he admitted that he had taken my daughter around this woman. But there was no "PDA"...Like that matters.
Anyway just a little rant/advice seeking session since I know a few of you are dealing with the BF/GF sitch...
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
Yeah, all I can say is that this kind odpf stuff sucks but quite frankly its inevitable I think. People say all the things they don't want u to do, and I suspect it come from his insecurity of seeing / hearing about you with someone else more than "protecting" your daughter. Why would that matter to him when he seemed to not care about having an A and walking out on his D and you in the first place....pt is, this and other crappy behavior as it relates to being a stand up dad/ husband should not suprise u.
She is one perceptive child to draw those conclusions at 4 yrs old. But since she has: I have found it easiest to just try and change the subject like you would if she was having a meltdown about something else.
K, its done, u cant change it, all u can do is dismiss his actions and try and help your D through it. I am no psychologist, but I think she is way too young to even come close to understanding what this all means so I would just try and avoid it if at all possible and tell Hasbend the results of what he has now put in motion. If done nicely, it can't hurt your R with him and you will continue to be the bigger person, which is why we are all here.
Hugs and Happy New Year Be safe tonight C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
