Hi everyone it has been awhile since I have posted you may remember me as wishingitwasover.. I am still on the rollercoaster ride with my husband I never did get divorced the ride I am on now with him does not have the twist and turns anymore it more or less has been a straight run... we are still living apart he now owns his own home, and I do believe his is still dating and as for me I am still living with the new man in my life and he has asked me to marry him but I am unable to take the steps for divorce..
Life is not so bad for me I survived the crisis although if you would have asked me 4 years ago i thought for sure it was going to kill me...
My kids have survived it, my son and his father have a good relationship my daughter is getting better she has started to see that life goes on and we can still be happy..
my husband and I are the best of friends, I have forgiven him for all the pain, the hurt, the tears, I have accepted him for who he is.. Do I feel he is still in crisis YES do I make his crisis my world anymore NO... this has forever changed who we are, but it never took the Love I have for him away and I know it did not take his from me..
He still stands by my side and helps me out at times, and I him, we are there for each other.. and he does say to me you never know we could land up back together again.. he does not want a divorce and neither do I..
I have grown so much from all of this, it has made me a new person, I no longer judge others for I do not walk in their shoes, I take the time to enjoy my life, my family, don't get me wrong I am not living in a fantasy world things are not perfect but they are good..
I am blessed to have come out the other side of this crisis smiling and living and so will all of you.. we all will survive
((((((((((Laughing)))))))))))) how are you??????? I have wanted to come back so many times But I really needed to get me together before I could come back and read some of these post..my heart breaks for all the new ones and all the others that have been here a long time.. I see I have a lot of reading to do and I do want to help others after all this place helped me...
I'm glad you have been able to move forward and you sound like you are in a happy place in your life now. I hope that I can get there someday soon...my rollercoaster ride really started about 2003...but I didn't know it then...so maybe I'm on the downhill side now....who knows? Best of luck to you. I hope someday I'll be able to come back and tell people I am happy!
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
If that is the case, then you need to make a change. You are not being fair to this man with whom you live. Besides, it isn't like you are unable to take the steps for a divorce, rather you are unwilling.
Time for you to take a risk. Sh*t or get off the pot.
((((((((((((IMP)))))))))))))) It has been sometime you and I have talked... your right about me taking the steps to get the Divorce I can take those steps but I chose not to, first then man I am living with has known this since the day I met him, that divorce was not in the picture for me..
as for Sh#$t or get off the pot LMAO my husband and I agreed getting a divorce would not benefit me at this time I have to much to loose like my life time health bens,pension, you see IMP I never worked outside the marriage even though I work now.. I do not collect any child support from him, I know he is there for our son if he needs anything.. it works for us.. the new man understands this I have never kept this from him ..
You see IMP I have also learned from all of this to protect myself to look out for me, that there are no guarantees in life and to look out for yourself protect yourself.. Something I did not do before this crisis.. and my husband feels the same way, and the new man in my life understands where I am coming from if he didn't he would not be here...
my husband myself and the new man all get along very nice, they both like each other and help each other out at times with different things it works for all of us...
Family and friends sometimes shake their heads at us not understanding how we all can be friends this way but it works for all of us and life is running smooth for all so why mess with a good thing?
Hugs to you IMP you know how I loved when you put it right out there....
((((((((((((((celestial)))))))))))) how are you?? it is good to hear from you, I have so much reading to do on this site, please keep in touch let me know how things are going..
((((ba065))))) thank you for your post, my ride also started in 2003 and I also did not know it at the time, it takes time to get past all of this.. I do morn the loose of my marriage, that is something I think we all deal with, but I had to move forward for my own sake if not I think I would have been stuck in the in that sad place for the rest of my life.. it just takes time..
Hey, you and I rode this rollercoaster ride together and we made it out alive!. It is great that you are back now so give the newbies reassurance that you can survive your WAS MLC.
Great news about your new man. He is a lucky guy..
I will post again later. I have to go to grade papers now.
I got a job!! I teach at a local college now.
Have a great day, Wishing..Glad to hear from you again!
