I think I was making it more exhausting by creating pressure to bring things to a resolution "right now", & we all know how attractive that is.
This is a great insight and a helpful reminder as well. I have to say, though, that I think it's totally understandable to yearn for resolution given the craziness of the ride.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
It's still shocking at how quickly it turns around when you stop acting bruised, & begin showing positive, happy behavior.
Since I've completely backed off & act As If I'm completely fine with the way things are, I've had nice interactions w/H.
That's terrific, Sunny. I guess it really is never too late. I'm happy for you.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
I've had to take the glass of wine out of the picture though, as I've recently found that it wasn't getting me closer to my goals.
Good for you, and ditto for me, at least for the most part. Maybe we can still share a glass on the ski trip.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
That means letting go of my R having to be any way but what it is right now.
Amen, Sunny. Those days when I feel like it's okay that things are exactly the way they are right now, like I'm embracing the present with all its uncertainty, are good days.
I think I was making it more exhausting by creating pressure to bring things to a resolution "right now", & we all know how attractive that is.
This is a great insight and a helpful reminder as well. I have to say, though, that I think it's totally understandable to yearn for resolution given the craziness of the ride.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
It's still shocking at how quickly it turns around when you stop acting bruised, & begin showing positive, happy behavior.
Since I've completely backed off & act As If I'm completely fine with the way things are, I've had nice interactions w/H.
That's terrific, Sunny. I guess it really is never too late. I'm happy for you.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
I've had to take the glass of wine out of the picture though, as I've recently found that it wasn't getting me closer to my goals.
Good for you, and ditto for me, at least for the most part. Maybe we can still share a glass on the ski trip.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
That means letting go of my R having to be any way but what it is right now.
Amen, Sunny. Those days when I feel like it's okay that things are exactly the way they are right now, like I'm embracing the present with all its uncertainty, are good days.
Great Goal for the season Sunny , I am going to do the same , accept things for what they are right now and try to make it as great for the kids as I can. I already note a lack of excitement from D12 about christmas and thats sad , so the task is to make this great for our kids.
Scrambling to get out the door with kids b/f they're late for school.
Since I received a text from Verizon last night that my password has been changed, (& if it was not me that made the change to contact them), it looks like H is in full checking mode & I'll hold off on posting for now. I guess they just need the billing zip & last 4 digits of SS & you're in there.
Hope everyone is doing great & I'll catch up on your threads later.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
I have AT&T and their security is tight as a drum. They instituted a huge privacy campaign they have encouraged all their account holders to add secret passwords to avoid security breach's. URGH. Sorry you are dealing with this. Hope it gets straitened out for you.
(((Sunny)))
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
