Chat with OPs spouse?

[saffie]

I fed info through that I knew would help the OW's H in pursuing hiw W as he still held hope for his marriage. I was graphic about myself and my H ML - that really got OW's goat. It was true but even if it hadn't been OW wouldn't have know that - it would have just been my H's word against hers - enough to foster feelings of doubt... I also told OW's H that my H was recommiting to our M and that sent OW over the edge!!!!

It worked.

Saffie

[Ohio_Mark]

Lester,
The other H tried to call me twice tonight. I ignored the call both times. He has called everynight since Sunday. I just am tired of the "info".

Oh, I have been there Yoyo. I got tired of her feeding me all of the crap she digs up when she snoops. I haven't chatted online or emailed her in over a month. I don't miss it a bit.

[Yoyowife]

Mark,
He's divorced now, he needs to get out and get a life. Honestly, I don't want him to be able to say I told him so and so and it gets back to my H.

[lester]

yeah I definately don't want the constant info. I think I'll stick with the short sweet suspicions line and let her take it for what it's worth without giving her info to call me back.

[LL44]

Wow. Lester, I posted to you earlier and its gone. ???

[lester]

must be the evil moderators that sop is talking about.

[DavidM]

THis is a little off topic but you know what's weird mark? I did some snooping on the Internet history and wife has looked up wedding cakes, dresses, honeymoons and crap


The dichotomy is weird... seems like she wants fantasy marriage and the real one while I'm getting less to caring if I stay married but trying to work on a real marriage but still trying to protect myself.

HAHAHAHA.. This cracks me up! I stumbled on this thread and just had to post to you. My XW did this too... (read the thread!) Within a few weeks of moving out she was looking up places to have receptions, I found out she and OM were looking at wedding rings, and b/c I was logging EVERYTHING on MY home computer... I saw her email to OM's sister in law about how she can't wait to meet them, the neice/nephew, and how they will be the BIBLE BOY and FLOWER GIRL, (pardon me while I vomit!!!)

If you really want a laugh take the time to read my threads, esp about her and Virgin Boy (almost 39 at the time and STILL a virgin)

In my case there was no other spouse, but I did chew OM out a couple of times; he was a friend of ours and works the same place I do; yeah, that was FUN. Not.

Oh, and he dumped her after 3 months b/c it was "wrong". She then decided she shouldn't date until she was actually divorced and two months after the D, she met a guy, moved in w/ him after 3 months, engaged a few weeks later and married (eloped) 8 months after that. MAYBE it will last.... but I'm not betting!

[Ohio_Mark]

I have a story there too. My wife sneaked up on me last week, and saw I was on this website.

So she googled "divorecebusters"... then poked around this website for a while in the MLC and Going Dark threads. Then she googled (get this): "how to stop a divorcebusting spouse"

The first thing that popped in my head was: "YOU CAN'T!!!"

DBing is for the benefit of the LBS! We are GALing and doing 180's not for the benefit of the marriage, but for ourselves!

[Kali]

So she googled "divorecebusters"... then poked around this website for a while in the MLC and Going Dark threads. Then she googled (get this): "how to stop a divorcebusting spouse"

Oh that is very comical. Makes me wonder what my H googled when he saw this site. I know that he even registered for a user name. I thought maybe he was reading, but I dont think he figured out what forum I am posting in?

[lester]

Yeah, a friend of mine just gave me a card for a lawyer. I recognize the number. I swear I've seen it maybe in her pocket or something when doing laundry (no I didn't snoop it). I'm not sure where I saw it but I swear its familiar.