For the second time in a month I have found an inappropriate text message on my wife's cell phone. It was to the same person that when I ask if she is having an EA with this OM she admitely denies anything going on. She has spent the night with this guy a few times as well.
We have had problems for a couple months now and I thought her to be a WAW. I have read Divorce Remedy and begun to DB as best as I can.
Recently she has talked about doing things as a family in the future (Spring). I need some direction in all of this, All signs point to a EA. I need to know if there is hope and what I can do to stop the affair.
My Sitch H - 28 W - 25 S - 23 Months OM - 40 Length of Affair - 2 Months???
Me=29 WAW=25 S=2 "I need a break" = 6/07 Filed = 12/07
If she wants to make plans for the future with you that is a good start. Remember to reward the positive. Making future goals together is a good goal. Your son is almost 2? Wow. Take care of yourself and keep DBing!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I know the pain of not knowing, yet wanting to know, yet not wanting to know. I am so sorry. I have young kids too (3 and 5) and I look at them, in all of their innocence.
Her talking about your future is a good sign. Pushing her to talk about what's going on will only drive her further away and more into denial. She doesn't want to admit what she has done, the guilt is too much for her right now. She isn't thinking clearly. If you want this to work (rather than leave), then you will have to painfully wait this out, until she is out of her fog. I come here, to read and sometimes to post. It just makes me feel better that people understand.
Thanks to you all. This has become a refuge for me. i am willing to wait this out. A friend who I had dinner tonight with asked how long will I wait? my response was that there was no timetable for something like this.
I fell that I have grown through this disaster and will be better off for it. I just hope it is with my wife...
Thanks Again.
Me=29 WAW=25 S=2 "I need a break" = 6/07 Filed = 12/07
That is exactly how I feel at the moment. While I want to move on with my H (I wouldn't be torturing myself if not), I know I will be fine going it without him too. The panic rises now and then when things are bad, but I try to remember that I can do it. For my girls, and for myself. I have become a stronger person, even if I am the only one that sees it right now. Take care.
Doing my best. Trying to get through one day at a time. I have ultimately come to the point of not showing any emotion when she tells me she is going out with the OG.
I honestly do believe she is seeing some signs of growth from me as well. She has been sending mixed messages all this week. One can only hope...
Me=29 WAW=25 S=2 "I need a break" = 6/07 Filed = 12/07
