Wanted to check in on you the other day and say hello but your thread locked, glad you have started a new one . Thanks for replying on my thread, it so nice of you to always take the time to say hello and offer your support. Hope you are ok today?
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
DR - Are you clinking my glass for a cheers? What will you be having?
Hi Nicky - Thank YOU for stopping by!!!
I had the weirdest dreams last night...first I'm hearing that H and OW are in a serious R, started beating up OW, then all of the sudden I'm having sex with H. It was the longest sequence of dreams I have ever had also.
DR - I had the weirdest dreams last night...first I'm hearing that H and OW are in a serious R, started beating up OW, then all of the sudden I'm having sex with H. It was the longest sequence of dreams I have ever had also.
I had a worse dream. In the dream, H came home and said he wanted to reconcile and we were having sex. Afterwards, I found out that it was a ploy to keep me from going to my lawyer in time to stop him from getting legal custody of the kids and now it was too late.
That was pretty scary to think I would lose H and the children too! I am glad that in reality he doesn't want custody because it would impose on his free time.
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
my situation... hurts. i thought I was getting through to my wife with an email... she really seemed to have been touched by it. but then she stalled on replying, and stalled on replying.. until the impact wore off. and then it was back to being as stand-off-ish as before. if not worse. it's like the "alien" can lull the suddenly re-awakened caring part of her into inaction for a while, until it can full reestablish control of her again. it's.. sickening, and terrifying.
i fear she's just playing me while she slowly, bit-by-bit, gets all the parts of a final divorce decree in place. Says things that sound positive, but then lies about the most positive stuff. Some teenytiny positive things, but solely around children. Trying to look on the brighter side of things.... but she lied about something recently, that she claimed she did.. but she didnt. I'm now feeling way more negative about her true intentions, than I would have if she had just said nothing.
ugh.
Last edited by Dom R; 07/19/0710:21 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
I'm sorry to hear that DR. How long have you been at this? I remember when H first left, we used to share these very touching emails and H would always say thank you and he would compliment me on things too. I don't mean to discourage you or anything, but I think it is normal that they "feel" touched by things...let's face it, no one can completely turn off feelings, they just have a good way of hiding it. The truth is that they're are so uncertain about their feelings that they're scared to share them. They don't want to get our hopes up. That's probably the most thoughtful thing the WAS/MLCer does.
When things started to change and H and I weren't having those types of emails or talks, I got scared and confronted him on D. Well, that's all it took for him...he just wanted ME to say it. I wish I would have just been patient and waited for him to say it. I think he would have had to come to terms with it more if he had to say it to me face to face.
Although somewhat the same, we are all in different sitch so I'm not saying you should do one thing or the other. I just know what I went through and where I'm at now.
The truth is that the WAS/MLC just doesn't know. They are in limbo just like we are...the difference is that we are waiting in limbo and they are in limbo because they just don't know what to do...they are confused, they know some of what they want is wrong, they are struggling with some deep, unidentified feelings.
Hang in there DR, be patient, remain calm and above all worry about YOU! UB
. Thanks for replying on my thread, it so nice of you to always take the time to say hello and offer your support. Hope you are ok today?
