Hello all...my first post over here after being in the Newcomers section for the past 5 months...D was final almost 3 weeks ago and I wonder if holding out hope for recon is a dumb idea. I belive my XW was one who needed to follow thru with the D to clear her head. Any thoughts would be appreciated...
Sorry that you are here. I feel the same way about mine. Helped to clear the board and start with a clean slate. While the D is done, it still might take some time for everything to clear and the dust to settle. Hang in there. We are with you.
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
We shall see. I have not waivered one bit in my behavior. The changes I made have stuck and XW probably thought it was an act and as soon as the D went final I would revert. Nope. I miss her at times and still care for her, but I am staying busy making new friends, male and female. And to be honest, female attention feels pretty good right now. Nothing serious and that's the way I want it. I have read a bit of your story and it sounds like you have made good progress after your D. Any tips?
My only advice is to start building the life that you want. It is hard but in the end you will feel much much better.
Do things for you....not for your XW. I have planned my life for ME and if she chooses to come back, then we can figure it out from there. But for now, I am looking out and planning for Me.
And yes, the female attention is extremely nice!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
Saw XW during kid exchange and briefly had feelings of wondering what she might be up to tonite. Probably nothing and I know it is not my concern. Didn't take too long for feelings to subside. S4 was being very defiant with me and it took everything I had not to lash out at XW. Kids are resilient you say? hmph
