MY H and I have been seperated for 2 years now, and piecing for over a year, and spend every weekend together and we still haven't said ILY to each other.
Thanks for that advice. Truth be told, we've had a very non-expressive kind of relationship. I should really read Five Love Languages and find out how best to show her affection.
I can really see her trying very hard. She contacts me more and more and finds excuses to be together.
Not much new to report. Things are going great. Lots of time together seeing movies, watching TV, and eating. Way too much eating out. We've both put on 5 lbs. since the Boston trip on Memorial Day! Getting a key to her place tomorrow. I've been selling furniture on Craig's List in preparation for moving, and we are cooperating on consolidating, packing stuff at both places and swapping furniture around so I can sell stuff.
I still think we could use DB Counseling together and I may yet make that an ultimatum before moving. But, that's another day....
We had our annual family June birthday bash yesterday at my brother's house. We have my brothers B-day, his 7 yo twins, and Lisa's b-day all together. This was the third family get together since we started piecing, and the first time my parents were there.
Everything went fine. My mom and dad gave her a very nice card, and a gift card and my mom wrote on there to get something nice for the new house. Everyone was positive about our upcoming move and expressed their desire to visit someplace new.
Work is looking good for moving - It looks like I'm going to change projects (really needed a change) but will still be able to work remotely, so moving to Boston will be much easier as I don't have to add a job search into an already busy, stressful situation.
I am psyched about a new environment, and I love the ocean. I don't love humidity, though, but one can adapt! I lived in Alaska for 6 years - that took some getting used to! :-) The downside is, of course I'm leaving a lot of friends. But, thanks to the wonder of the internet, text messaging, and everyone having cell phones, it's at least possible to keep in touch virtually!
I haven't updated in quite some time. Things are going great, piecing-wise. I don't have the urge that I used to have to press her with details about our time apart, when she was with OM. I did do one bad thing - since we now have keys to each others places, I went by and did a little snooping - mostly on the computer. There's no trace of any further contact with OM. He's not in her contacts anymore. I actually debated with myself for quite some time over whether to snoop, but in the end, it made me feel good. The ends justify the means?
Hi Some advice - be careful about calling yourself a "yankee" in the heart of Red Sox Nation - Boston Massachusetts
Seriously - here is some wise advice a friend gave me last Friday that may help I am bouncing back ever so slowly from my husbands MLC I am taking it one day at a time and while there was no Pa or Ea and he never left the house - I was sure 6 months ago it was over
Anyway - as I described my husband SLOWLY coming around and my frustration of wanting to know why this happened AND wanting an apology or some assurances that it won;t happen again - my dear friend said - "hey you were patient enough to wait for him to come around - you need to use that same patienec with him while you wait to see why this happened or for an apology "
I tell myself her words now every time I am tempted to grill my husband on what he did to almost blow up our family over a year ago I need to keep showing patience and GAL and all those things I have been doing these many months I want it to be like it never happened - and that is impossible If you come to Boston - I hope it is with a future of happiness for you - Best of luck and welcome
me - 47 H - 50 /49 when bomb happened Daughter 17 years old married 21 years together 26 years Bomb August 06 H still at home 'I love you but not in love with you'
We're off to our 2nd trip back east. House hunting this time. We are looking at a couple places in upstate NY, Worcester, MA,and along the North Shore in MA. Outside of Boston itself, housing isn't any worse than in Denver. That was a pleasant surprise for me!
I live in upstate NY. Only up near Canadian border in a town near Pulaski Ny.
Sounds like you are doing great.
I too sometimes want to know what the heck went on in my H's mind and with the EA he was in but i am waiting for a while longer before i bring up R talk with him.
Have a good time
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
