Just a quick post. I am reading Mars and Venus in the Bedroom. It is really a great book!! I asked my H to read it also, we'll see what happens! Anyway, life is keeping me busy, so much to do before next week and trying to do it all with a good attitude!!
I have to get a grip. You'd think after being on this ride for so long I would be immune to the highs and the lows by now. The communication between my H and Me is getting better. Have heard more I Love You's but have still not said it back. I did write it on an email though. His Mother still is doing her freaking antics and I am mad as hell right now. Forgive me while I vent, but I have nobody to talk to about this issue. She wants him to drive down Friday morning and stay through Monday night. Why is this woman not decent enough to say, "you should be with your wife and kids, it's Christmas". Or "let me help you pay for your ticket home as your present so you can be with your family". But instead, she gives the good old guilt trip and tries to entice him with home made tamales and time together. Yes I know the other side too. My Husband could have said "no". He likes the fact that he will have his Mommy all to himself as his Brother won't be around. She mentioned to me that next Christmas she would like to come out here and spend it with her Grandkids. You know, the ones who she has had no contact with or called in ages and ages. Inside I am screaming HELL NO!!! But I just said "we'll see". I have to accept that my Christmas Miracle is not going to be happening this year. Obviously God has other plans for me this year. The kids think I am playing a joke on them about their Dad not being here. They don't believe me. This is not something I would kid around about. So this will be the forth sucky Christmas in a row, I had so wanted this one to be special and different. I wanted to wake up on Christmas morning with my Husband next to me. I wanted to sit with him and the kids and do the gift thing. I sound like a baby but it is just so freaking unfair.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Quote: I have to accept that my Christmas Miracle is not going to be happening this year. Obviously God has other plans for me this year.
Maybe he has another Christmas miracle for you. Do not let your joy be sucked away by a greedy MIL. you are better than that. It iws just another hump over the mountain!!!
Think of the things that are better than last year..What positives have changed???
What would be a kicker if you showed up at MIL's with the kids !!!
What if you went with him? Bust the MIL's plan with your own. Would it be a 180 for you to try to bury the bad feelings for your MIL with a smile? Kill her with kindness. I understand and empathize with you feeling angry with her but now is not the time to let a negative get in the way of your progress. ((suzy))
Sure that is a great and wonderful idea but somehow paying airfare for 9 people to travel 3000 miles to be with my MIL just isn't want I think I should be doing right now.
I guess if you are not familiar to my sitch you don't know that my Husband is in CA and I am on the East Coast.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
So,let me get this straight, she wants him there knowing you all can't go? is that right?? Has she seen him last year? can't you suggest your H sees her every other Christmas? what a viper!!! Ah! hispanic mothers, they do expect the kids to stick around forever (I know it, mine is like that :P )
Ask your H to talk to the kids, have him explain to them that he has to go see his "mami".
Well, i DO hope you have a merry Christmas, if H isn't going to be around, do something else for a change, get together w/other friends family, dang it, I order you to have a merry Christmas !!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
The abbreviated version.... MIL is in N.CA. H is in S.CA. Me On East Coast. She is visiting with her sisters an hour away from H. We couldn't afford his ticket home, so instead of him being alone he is seeing his "Mami". They haven't seen each other since February. She used to live with us, the kids and I have not seen her for about 15 months as she moved back to CA.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Hi BND, Glad to have found your new thread. Hmmm.. thanks for mentioning the Mars and Venus in the Bedroom book. I bought that at least 5 years ago but have not read it. My H read some of it at the beginning of our M, liked it alot and complained about me not reading it. I hope your H likes it too. ~PH
