Let's list some ways that on the return paths our Sweetheart's can show affection or just make us feel safe...things that can help us trust them but also them trust themselves.
Listening, without judgement, pain, anger, resentment, etc. I guess this is the most basic thing I can do to help someone feel human, in every sense of the word. And, it's the best trick I can use to control myself.
What means a lot to me is when he seems to notice I'm hurting and actually asks if I'm ok. That he will suddenly squeeze my shoulder or kiss me on the head almost without noticing it. Trying to share/notice what is happening to me rather than just what is happening to him. Just a few of the things that mean a lot to me right now.
