That is so funny,i love it.And you are right,keep your sense of humor.They can't take that away.My mom raised me and my 2 sisters on her own.We were a little messed up from our dad being a WAS but we survived and we all have turned out great.It made us stronger.God Bless,K
Absolutely! I know there are reasons for their madness that make perfect sense to them but I, who was neglected for years, can't imagine making the choice my W did. So, as you say, we might as well laugh cuz it uses up the same energy as crying!
I'm doing OK. I guess. Focusing on the positives (and the added bonus of spending his money on things for "my" place) are working wonders.
Quote: There has to be SOME good use for that big beak of his,
Hmmm.... I could take that 2 ways...
One...you mean shoving it where the sun don't shine (SO's, area, that is) ... I don't think there's enough room - remember, he's already got his head there.
Or 2, if you were thinking of me, lol, Buzz & Woody already have that covered, although I guess a girl could always use a few extras.
kasiopeia & Whatisis,
Thanks for stopping by. Yeah, humor. It keeps me going.
Ya know, I haven't said much lately because I don't know WHAT to say. My mind is a whirlwind and I haven't been able to organize my thoughts.
There's half of me that's so utterly devastated by the fact that I'm moving out. The part of me that feels like a failure. The part of me that says SO chose some 12 years younger college girl over his family. The part of me that says "I" wasn't good enough for him to choose to work on "our" R. The part of me that is cut to the bone every time I find out he's done something with OW that *I* would always ask for us to do - things that may have made a difference. The looks on my kids faces when they hear us talking about "the move".
The part that sees him caving to her ultimatum (Get ME out of the house or she won't see him anymore - yes, they BOTH told me this) . The part of me that hurts so bad when OW calls here and I hear the message. Or, like last night, get woken up in the middle of the night by the ringing of the phone - yeah, it was her. Hung up after I answered, but I checked the ID and it was her.... **Note to self, if that happens again, always answer phone with a sexy "Hey, babe". LMAO
The, there's the other side of me that says: Phew. I'm outta here. Peace of mind; no more inadvertently getting hurt by SO's actions - although I know - I haven't detached successfully enough to get past these things. The part of me that looks forward to moving forward with my life.
Half of my friends/family/fellow board members - well, half say "GET OUT"; he's nuts; blah, blah, blah. The other half says fight to stay in the house.
But, I DON'T WANT TO STAY HERE. Not like that. Not by fighting for what I may or may not be entitled to. To me, that's completely invalidating his feelings. Why would I force myself to be somewhere I'm NOT wanted? That's all I can think of. It would just make things worse.
Yeah - at this point in time, you might ask why should I have any compassion or sympathy for his feelings when I have kids to think of? Because I've learned those things. I've learned how to see different sides of things. I've learned that perhaps by letting him go, I may in fact get him back for the long term. But it still hurts. And I still have to figure out how to convey to him that this is my line in the sand. I do not want him thinking that I'm waiting around for him or anything - like he seems to think. I want to shut the door, but I'll keep it unlocked - I just don't want him to know that. I want him to knock first, not just try the handle and waltz in.
I'm sorry if this isn't too clear. I've got to get this out, maybe it will help me make sense of what's going on in my head. I've got more, but I've got phone calls to make before he gets home.
All fine and good but don't confuse emotion with business. PLEASE find out from a lawyer if you will be jeopardizing your claim to the house by moving out. He owes you and those children, don't risk their future and stability in an effort to be 'nice" to SO.
Finally was able to get through to the public defenders office and speak with a live person. Before they'll even let me speak to attorney, I must first file for support and/or custody. It doesn't have to be both, just one or the other then they'll *maybe* assign me an attorney.
So, looks like tomorrow or Friday I have to trot my rear to the courthouse. I'll file the paperwork for custody so that I can get a damned attorney.
Oh, and BTW, the girl did check one thing - because I have made no (financial) contributions to the household, I would most likely NOT be legally entitled to stay here. Unless, of course, it goes through the courts and they determine otherwise.
Quote: Half of my friends/family/fellow board members - well, half say "GET OUT"; he's nuts; blah, blah, blah. The other half says fight to stay in the house.
NM, I for one am saying he's nuts and kick him out of the house, you stay!!! You get the house, the kids and he gets the loser ow. I can't believe she's calling you. Why not ask her next time how she would feel and how she would like it when you call her all the time when she's living with him. (it seems that she's wanted to talk to you before.) Why not also ask her what happened to her pregnancy.
