ok, just for fun and because I could use a laugh...what is the MOST ridiculous, preposterous thing your spouse has said to you? For instance: She's been having her cake and eating it too for 6 months while I do my best to DB. She fluctuates and flat tells me her "feelings are all over the map". Sat night she had tickets to a show with OW. Talking to her on the phone Sat while she was at work: me;"will you be out all night?" her; "oh yeah, that thing will be over really late". As though the time the play got out was the reason she was spending the night with the OW!!!!! You betcha! How will you explain every OTHER Saturday night for the last 6 months? I laughed outloud and quickly got myself off of the phone before I exploded. So, let's hear some of those absolutely ridiculous things you've heard, c'mon. Let's have a game of can you top this? How about my spouse, whom we all know is having the big PA commenting that someone else "must have no morals"! That has to be among the top 10!!! But I want to hear some others. Let's vent. It might keep me from strangling someone!
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
How's this one, "I've always been honest with you about everything, except this relationship" Or "There was another guy who wanted to go out with me, but I said NO because I'm a married woman" (She's presently in an A with someone else) Am I one ungrateful SOB or what! She's a saint and I just missed it. No wonder our M is in trouble! It's all my fault. I understand now! This thread has helped me see the light at last !!!
Amen brother. Good to see the scales removed from the eyes of another sinner! How about "I never thought of myself as someone who would have an affair!" To think that I too had missed this high moral ground! TSK TSK!!! And I never thought of myself as someone who would be cheated on. I guess everybody can be wrong!
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
Helinka, It sounds like your W is in a f/f A too. Why don't you join us on the "Is the OM a W? Lets talk" thread. There's a couple of us there trying to figure out what the hell has happened to our lives. Join the party! Oh, I also got "I don't like the word "affair", it sounds so cheap" That's cuz it is, sweetie!
I was looking at that topic earlier today. I don't understand the whole "thread" thing. How do I get back there? I'd be happy to chat on the heartbreaking topic
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
hi everyone! got one here Helinka, how about..... me: What if I go out and have my own A so you know how it feels? H: If that will make you feel better.... what the f^^k is that? my SIL was trippin'! How messed up can you be? What's good for the goose is good for the gander I thought, but hell I know what committment means in my M, apparently H forgot! Can't tell you how many times that idea did run thru my mind though, but I wouldn't want to stoop to his level. I know I'm much stronger than that. Anyone else has something out there?
"If that will make you feel better..." Yup, that's pretty stupid. How about this one ( I got a million of em). After I told her that her actions were morally wrong (cheating, not the sexual orientation) she told me morality is whatever people want it to be. She then said "It used to moral to lynch black people". My response was "You really are nuts, aren't you!"
ya know how there are days where ya just want to throw the towel in and say "f*&k it I quit?" Well I checked my calendar and today is one of those days! So how about a laugh?
Can anybody top this? Early morning. Spouse has returned from spending night with OW. Home just in time to get dressed for work and see daughter (to make kid think she was home all night) Spouse says to me: "what did you do last night?" Hmmmmmmm.....now here is a social faux pas...usually one answers that with an inquiry of ones own..."and what did YOU do?" Since I already knew the answer to that ("I screwed around with my imbecilic lover who is also drugged out of her mind on the insanity of our affair") I hardly knew how to reply.
Can ya top it? C'mon I really need a laugh today!!
And I'm glad your pride is in tact dude. You SHOULD be proud of yourself because you are working your hardest in the most difficult of situations.
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
Helinka, Sorry you are bummed out today. But I have no laughs to provide. I can only empathize, its hard when the S has been out with the OP. It will subside. Maybe a good cry would help, same benefits as a laugh they say! Stay well.
Here's one that happened in the early weeks of our separation:
Me: So, how are you doing? H: I'm really happy and relaxed, actually. Me: That's cool. (pause) So, what do you think you'll do if/when you start having some regrets or start feeling unhappy? H: I couldn't be more depressed than this!
WTF?!
Thankfully, he's more clear now when he communicates, but those early days were a nightmare.
