Opinions? I presume this is a good sign but what do you all think?: Spouse and I email back and forth and she says, out of the blue: "I feel so many different ways. I'm all over the map. Wish I could talk to you about it but it's just too hard right now."(This from a woman who has told me "it's over between us" but then "just couldn't" move out...) WOWSA! What brought that on? I noticed the night before she was following me around and staying close by me at home but I did not try to start any conversation.
I wrote back that "it must be frightening to have so many deep emotions and to teeter back and forth. I'll be here when you are ready to talk. I understand if now is not the time." (Of course I really wanted to say "why don't you call your therapist and start seeing her once a week instead of once a month?" but...discretion.) She wrote back; "yeah I teeter all over hourly. I should have dramamine"
Of course that was days ago and I haven't heard another word. She stil found time to go sleep with the OW this week. Shall I read this as at lease she isn't SURE what she's doing? CRIPES!
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
Brother, I am in the same sitch. My W started seeing OW as a friend. I was traveling and she kept "being there." W finally slept with her at least three times, once I caught them. W moved out last month. got the ole I love ya but,,, speech.
Now she is in the throes of a MLC and the OW is still there "as a friend." too needy and clingy also. OW has a reputation for screwing with married women and triggering MLC.
Only one to blame is W. Currently working on myself only. That is what this site is all about. A place to vent and find yourself. Find help and understanding while we wait out our spouses return to reality.
ooooh. let me guess, that was Bonnie Rait in the quote right? "I can't make you love me..."
I really have had it this week, even though I got that glimpse of good news. We have a 7yr old daughter. What shall I tell her? We are right at the 6 month marker and I am beginning to fade. But I have certainly worked on "me". Sometimes it's just harder than others, especially when the other INTELLIGENT person makes such STUPID choices. The OW has 2 small boys. Shall I tell my duaghter that her other parent has traded her in for 2 boys? cripes!
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
Bonnie Raitt it sure is. Today while driving with my daughter the W texts her and says she is with the OW and her son. Ouch,,,talk about daggers. Try this... it might even make you smile when you realize how this goes..
Oh my God!!! That guy could sell this as and Ebook, no problem. Thank you for giving me a laugh. How about this speech: "I want good things for you, I just don't think I'm the one to give them to you".
I should probably clarify that I too am a FEMALE. Yes, a real honest to goodness Lesbian....but I'd never seduce your wife. I just didn't want you to think you were sharing "guy talk" or anything. I totally feel for you and it will be hard because women are such emotional creatures and use it as an exuse...."but I LOVE her and I don't want to HURT her"....subtext "you I have written off and I don't give a flying rip if you get shredded" How old is your daughter?
Patience is not only a virtue, sometimes it is an impossibility.
