I am in the same boat, wife of 20 years tells me its over on sept 30 and now I find out she has a boyfriend, in fact an ex and she is in love with him. It hurts so much to find out you are no longer loved esp for a third time......I can't hardly stand it....i feel so sick and weak and she seems strong and happy.......how do you stop loving someone just like that...I sure can't seem to like she did.......god I am going to miss her and seeing her with om will send me over the edge......
Boy!! I don't pop in for a while, and the whole website has changed. Looks nice!!
OK, just stopped in for a little vent.
I've been going along fine---trying to GAL. Attending town football games with friend, went to the casino with my Mom--they gave me $20 for my birthday this month--lost 12 of it and took the other 8 home. I figure it's found money.
The X had the boys this weekend, but brought them back Sat. evening because he had to work early Sunday. I would rather they be with me than her anyway. So the X says that he will help me get the cover on the pool Sat. afternoon. Well, this is the day I ended up at the casino with my Mom..so I call him and tell him that I am going to be a while. I told him not to worry about the pool cover, that oldest son and I can put it on.
Our boys were also selling stuff for band for the past two weeks, and the X took one of them to work. He forgot to bring it back, so he said that he would bring it by today. He showed up about 6:45--as my son and I were trying to remove the ladder from the pool so that we could get the cover on. He stayed until almost 8:00 and helped us cover the pool.
Anyway, the vent.
So, after he left, I came in and started going through the orders for the boys---making sure that the money matched the order amt. and adding my own. I find two checks in there from her---the skank. I literally felt my face go flush.
So, I sent him a text. Told him that the next time to please have her write the checks to him. That I try to think about her as little as possible--preferably not at all.
Don't know if that was fair on my part---after all, he's been with the old hag for 4 years now. Still--hate her. Don't really care to have her pop up in my life when I'm not expecting it. I have to put up with enough with this sitch.
We've had several situations this week where we have had to deal with each other. We get along ok--sometimes it's awkward--which still feels odd because we were together so long. Still alot of hurt there.
We had parent teacher conferences--and it's sad that the X just kind of sat there like a bump---because he doesn't really have a clue what kinds of problems the boys have with their homework or in their classes. I'm sure that he is uncomfortable--but at least he goes.
We also bought a truck for my oldest son and gave it to him on Thursday. The X's dad owns a rebuilder business, and found us a 99 Ford Ranger cheap. It's a really nice truck and only needs a bumper and one fender. We figured that the oldest could help his Dad fix it--maybe he would take more care of it if he has a little elbow grease in it too. His 16th birthday's in Jan. and we thought he might need the extra time to get used to driving it too. It's a stick (which is what he wanted).
Anyway, life goes on--and I guess you get to the point where things just don't bother you as much. I mean, before I might have ripped the checks into tiny pieces and called him screaming about him keeping his skanky whore out of my life.
Don't really care to have her pop up in my life when I'm not expecting it. I have to put up with enough with this sitch. 