Tough sitch guy, post more on the background to fill us in. One thing I can add from one of your posts and experience of seeing it as a bystander before. I've seen attempts in the mil at stay away orders. They are nearly impossible to enforce. To make it work, all form of contact need to be stopped, e-mail, cell phone, etc. not just the in-person stuff. Pulling for you, RJ
Thanks everyone, you guy s can read my full sitch from my past posts starting around Jul-Aug. It just sux...my wife wants nothing to do with me. I just moved from Montana where I was stationed to Cali to be close to her in case something does break. Of course when I made that decision she said she would give me another chance. I guess I just wanted to cause some anguish on this other guy by getting him in trouble but I know thats not the answer. I am a good christian man but I'm really angry at this whole thing.
Tnglator, As others have recommended, DO NOT confront OM on your own! It'll only backfire and have the opposite results you desire. However, I would follow whatever military protocol there is to EXPOSE his extra maritial adultery. There are consequences for sin, both here and in eternity.
Be careful to align your motive for doing so with what God's Word says. Exposing the affair to military authorities is not necessarily exacting revenge but rather making the sinful deeds of darkness known. God doesn't want us to ignore sin and allow it to continue but He also doesn't want us to gain revenge at our own hands. Exposing I don't think is the same thing as taking revenge.
Ephesians 5:11-13 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather EXPOSE them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible.
John 3:20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be EXPOSED.
Romans 12:17-21 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Ephesians 5:11-13 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather EXPOSE them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible.
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Well, then, if this scripture clearly admonishes not to even 'mention' the 'disobedience', then it's not saying 'place a call and tip off someone about the wrongdoing', rather, the scripture says that such disobedience becomes 'visible' by being 'exposed by the light'. Meaning what? That the path of wrong-doing when compared to the path of right-doing shows it up for what it is? Isn't it then advocating that the way one 'exposes' wrong-doing means that one lives upright and chooses the right path, and in that way, clearly makes the comparison between what is right and what is wrong evident?
John 3:20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be EXPOSED.
People engaged in 'doing evil' are sometimes very evident in their actions, their deeds are plain for all to see. This scripture speaks of these people 'not coming into the light', because of their 'hatred' of that light. It's not saying that their deeds are to come into the light, but that they themselves do not want to come into the light. Meaning what? That people engaged in wrong-doing know they're engaged in wrong-doing and don't like hearing different because of the guilt they'd have to acknowledge if they were to accept what they were doing was wrong?
I was in the Military. I remember quite well the rules and regulations. They are called the Uniform Code of Military Justice. If I remember correctly, adultry is a crime punishable under the UCMJ. I would speak to the JAG, and get his opinion on the affair situation. If the OM is an officer, the punishment is usually much worse than if he were enlisted, or an NCO.
I saw infidelity a million times in the military if I saw it once. It is disgusting, and deplorable. I share your situation, and I feel your pain. Good luck.
i waana bust this guy...its over between me and the wife...she been nothing but cold hearted. This guy deserves the puishment, if he was stupid enough to engage in this that he must have known the consequences
Sir Part of the Military is trust. I had to trust my officers would not foolishly waste our lives or at least have an NCO UNF%%$# the plan before execution.
Whoever this man is if I knew his actions I would transfer immediately since I would assume him to do the oppsite. We do not need leaders like this. I saw a few shady types while deployed and their enlisted suffered needlessly.
I realize Vengence is mine says the Lord however JAG can help. At the worst a letter placed in the record or a few words in the Evaluation with a little tarnish.
Tread lightly and test the water first. Research. If you are just venting you went to the right place.
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